SD’s, how would you recommend to ask for help with financial emergencies (without it being perceived as drama or intentional)
My first SD has had multiple SBs before. He picked me because I was a sweetheart and different than the more (I guess you could say strategic or opportunistic sugar babies he’s had in the past) and had no experience, he likes that I’m inexperienced with SR i guess. He lets his past relationships kind of cloud his discernment with me sometimes, but I know I’m being honest and genuine. He also has some avoidant tendencies but it’s okay with me. Anyway, I was in a car accident and I’m not sure how or if I could ask him for help because my car is totaled because my insurance doesn’t cover me in an accident.
I read on here that some women manufacture drama to get extra help or financial emergencies and the SDs don’t like that and it is perceived as emotional drama. I don’t want to add drama into his life but I actually do need help and this clearly wasn’t intentional so I’m not sure if I can even bring it up. I’ve been renting a car for months but it’s putting a lot of financial strain and stress on me. I don’t want to be put in that same category of women that he’s used to and I don’t think he’d be willing to buy a car or anything. He provides for me and we’ve been doing this for about a year now. I wouldn’t mind even driving a cheap used car I could pay for in cash I just don’t know what to do or how to bring it up (I haven’t mentioned that my car was totaled yet because I want to be good/not dramatic in our relationship)