I'm a 40 year old, kind and patient dominant man looking for a submissive to build a meaningful long-term D/s relationship with, focusing on personal connection and trust. I'm open to online only, or starting online and trying to meet IRL down the line. If possible, I'd love for us to meet IRL on a regular basis if it all works out. Open for this to develop into a romantic relationship as well.
What I'm looking for
I mainly enjoy being dominant "in the bedroom", and prefer my everyday life to be more or less balanced with you. That being said, if you'd be into extending some aspects of D/s dynamics into everyday life, like tasks or rules, I'm definitely open to that. I'm looking for a dynamic where we can share our daily lives, thoughts, joys and struggles, as well as being kinky freaks haha.
I’m drawn to submissives who are obedient, dedicated, and compassionate. Not much of a brat tamer, but I can handle some pushback and teasing, just don't enjoy it all the time. Compliments are a turn on for me, and I will of course praise you back. I love to hear how good I make you feel and how much you enjoy our dynamic. It's also important to me that you're interested in me as a person, not just as a dom and for sex.
Naturally I also want us to have some overlap in kinks, but I would also like us to have some hobbies or interests in common to connect over too. No preference for ethnicity, hair colour or build, I find women of all looks attractive!
More about me
I have a university degree and work a stable office job that I really enjoy, with a few days of home office a week. My office hours are fairly flexible, making it possible to fit in time for you and for us to play. I live in an apartment on my own, no kids from previous relationships. I support left leaning politics, environmentalism, animal welfare, and consider myself an LGBTQ+ ally. I have a calm and friendly personality, and although I'm enjoy social events, I prefer chill nights at home over long nights out on the town these days.
I'm half East Asian, half Scandinavian, so I have features from both sides. 180 cm tall, slender Asian build but toned and muscular from working out regularly. Since I'm balding, I keep my hair to a very, very short buzz, and have a beard. There's some grey in my beard, which I think looks nice. A septum piercing where I usually wear a simple ring. My cock is a bit on the larger side of average and uncircumsised. I either dress office casual for work or a slightly alt look for my spare time. Love my band shirts, but can dress up decently nice too. I have a very black wardrobe, but a lot of silly colourful socks! Willing to share pictures of myself (both SFW and NSFW) fairly early on to see if the attraction is there, but I don't expect anything back from you right away.
For hobbies, I enjoy video games, climbing (bouldering specifically), hiking in nature (we have lovely mountains and woods here), watching shows, and listening to music (I have a small vinyl record collection and like metal, hip-hop, indie, and some jazz and electronic music). When visiting new places, I like to experience local nature and cuisine, as well as visit art and history museums.
Kinks and limits
As a dominant, I'm kind, patient, and care a lot about my submissive's needs and wants. Consent, communication, and trust is important to me. None-judgmental, and open to discuss anything though I might not agree or be into it, I'll be respectful about it.
What I offer as a dom is someone you can trust that cares for and about you. I want to make you feel confident and safe, while also weak, helpless and vulnerable at the same time. Through communication and guidance, I want to help you become the best possible sub for me, and I the perfect dom for you.
I’m happy to negotiate and leave out any kinks you’re not into. My goal is for us both to feel excited in our play. Some of them (in no particular order) are: rough sex, spanking, hair pulling, choking and face slapping, light bondage, light pain, blowjobs and face fucking, using fingers, toys and mouth on you, giving rimming and anal, bareback and creampie, freeuse, cnc, giving orgasms and orgasm control, name calling (sweet and/or degrading), light degradation and humiliation, giving praise, pics and videos for private use.
I'd love to hear yours and if there are any I haven't listed that you like!
I’m not into sharing you with other men, extreme violence, fisting, scat, animals, or diapers
If this sounds like a good fit for you, please don't hesitate to reach out and tell me a bit about yourself! DMs open as long as the post is up