u/sasserax

Looking for the 4 C’s: Connection, Chemistry, Consistency, and Candor.

I’ve attempted this a couple of times with mixed results but I feel like each time I’m getting better at knowing what I want and getting a little closer to what I need.

I’m not here for cheap thrills, one-liners, or endless fantasy talk that never leaves the inbox. I’m here because I believe two people can build something *real,* even if it lives slightly outside the lines.

I’m looking for a long-term, stable AP relationship rooted in mutual respect, consistency, and genuine connection. The kind where we actually show up for each other. Where attention isn’t rationed, communication isn’t a guessing game, and chemistry isn’t just assumed, it’s felt.

Yes, I want flirtation. I want spark, desire, that can’t-quite-behave smile when your phone lights up. But I also want depth. Conversation that flows. Trust that builds. A sense of “this matters” on both sides. A boyfriend experience.

I’m a working, married mom in a DB and prefer if you are un a similar situation. I’m drawn to someone tall (6’+), attractive, and healthy (inside and out) ideally in the 40–46 age range. Confidence, presence, and taking care of yourself matter to me, just as emotional intelligence and self-awareness do.  Be prepared to send a photo and validate right off the bat. Also tell me what you think it takes to have a long term AP.

I value reliability, curiosity, and kindness, and I give those freely in return. I’m not looking to be someone’s escape pod or secret hobby; I’m looking for a partner in this space. Someone who understands discretion *and* commitment, passion *and* patience.

If you’re emotionally available, communicative, and interested in creating something steady, meaningful, and genuinely fun over time - let’s talk.

If you’re chasing chaos, sexting, validation, or boredom relief… we’re probably not a match.

This isn’t fantasy.

This is intentional.

And if it’s right, it could be incredible.

Looking for the 4 C’s: Connection, Chemistry, Consistency, and Candor.

I’ve attempted this a couple of times with mixed results but I feel like each time I’m getting better at knowing what I want and getting a little closer to what I need.

I’m not here for cheap thrills, one-liners, or endless fantasy talk that never leaves the inbox. I’m here because I believe two people can build something real, even if it lives slightly outside the lines.

I’m looking for a long-term, stable AP relationship rooted in mutual respect, consistency, and genuine connection. The kind where we actually show up for each other. Where attention isn’t rationed, communication isn’t a guessing game, and chemistry isn’t just assumed, it’s felt.

Yes, I want flirtation. I want spark, desire, that can’t-quite-behave smile when your phone lights up. But I also want depth. Conversation that flows. Trust that builds. A sense of “this matters” on both sides. A boyfriend experience.

I’m drawn to someone tall (6’+), attractive, and healthy (inside and out) ideally in the 40–46 age range. Confidence, presence, and taking care of yourself matter to me, just as emotional intelligence and self-awareness do.  Be prepared to send a photo

and validate right off the bat. Also tell me what you think it takes to have a long term AP.

I value reliability, curiosity, and kindness, and I give those freely in return. I’m not looking to be someone’s escape pod or secret hobby; I’m looking for a partner in this space. Someone who understands discretion and commitment, passion and patience.

If you’re emotionally available, communicative, and interested in creating something steady, meaningful, and genuinely fun over time—let’s talk.

If you’re chasing chaos, sexting, validation, or boredom relief… we’re probably not a match.

This isn’t fantasy.

This is intentional.

And if it’s right, it could be incredible.