Dearest community,
I could use some guidance here. I've just started going to kink spaces as a single bisexual man and I am really excited to make a few new experiences.
I actually do have some experience with these places from my previous relationship, I've been to several clubs with my ex-partner, I've had a few threesomes and such so I'm not exactly new to all of this and always greatly enjoyed the open-minded vibe.
But, obviously, going all by myself is an entirely different situation. Two nights ago I challenged myself to go to a BDSM event at Insomnia and had a pretty good time. I felt great wearing the outfit that I chose. The people were nice and I got over my anxiety and chatted up a few people, couples and singles. I made them a compliment, smiles were exchanged but conversation remained flat.
I generally consider this night a great success, even if nothing really happened after all and I do want to go to different parties and different places in the future.
So, here's my question: How do you strike up a conversation when meeting people in these places? I am struggling to apply the social skills I have cultivated in friends/work/dating settings to this new situation because I don't just want to start asking questions about their life and the topic of "what are you looking for" seems just as lame.
The situation would apply to speaking to people at a club/event as well as writing messages on platforms like joy-club, etc.
Kindly share your experience in connecting with people in these spaces. 😄