u/the_foggy_40s

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It’s rather quiet and desolate when you reach a stage such as the one that brings me here.

There’s a great deal of introspection, silence, and wishing that time travel existed.

I’ve gathered my thoughts into a few posts here over the past couple of months. A few responses come through, a couple of days of very enjoyable conversation, then the typical ghosting sets in that’s at the core of the Reddit mentality.

The phrase in my title has been popping into my head lately. I don’t know what it’s like to be considered anymore. At home, I’m an afterthought, a piece of furniture.

I’m a tall, HWP, San Fernando Valley dad.
Being a dad is what I’ve found that I’m best at.
I spend the rest of my time hiking, kayaking, cycling getting through stacks of books, shopping for and listening to my vinyl collection, photography, and then somehow I mix in making dinner, washing clothes, cleaning, getting my kid back and forth to school and extracurriculars, as well as a full time job. Somehow it all happens every week.

I see many posts that talk about type. Really it all boils down to for me is a great sense of humor and solid “verbal ping pong” as I saw it referred to once.
I’d prefer someone also married with kids as they full understand being a member of the club.

Well, back to the laundry. 🧺

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u/the_foggy_40s — 21 days ago
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I could sit in front of my record player all weekend and just listen to Beach House over and over again.

I could just play music on another digital device, but there’s a reverence for the music that come from the action of taking the record out of the sleeve and placing it on the turntable.

Hopefully this nostalgic rambling has weeded out the younger crowd.

40 and above still here? Good.

I’m a 44 y/o easygoing dad in Los Angeles. I’m one of those transplants who came from a small town on the other side of the U.S. many years ago to panhandle gold on the West Coast (damn, that’s an even older reference for anyone aged 100 or more.)

I could go on and on about why I’m posting an ad in a subreddit called “OnlineAffairs” but you already know why. It’s the same reasons you’re scrolling through them.

I’ve put my can-do Dad energy into showing my kid how exciting and adventurous this town can be. I use the rest of my time explore new hobbies to fill the void (hiking, writing, guys’ trips, reading the immense number of books I’ve acquired).

That can only take me so far though, and I’d love to be meet a kindred spirit here who is also missing that spark they’d love to find once again.

If you’ve got a great sense of humor and a predilection for effortless conversation, please do reach out ☺️

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u/the_foggy_40s — 25 days ago