I feel like a lot of people in the community confuse findom with paid femdom, or just attach “findom” to literally any kink involving a payment.
A sub paying for humiliation doesn’t automatically make it findom.
A domme selling feet pics isn’t automatically a findomme.
A chastity dynamic with tributes isn’t automatically financial domination.
Findom is specifically about the psychological relationship with money, power, sacrifice, status, and control through financial submission.
The money itself becomes part of the kink.
A lot of dynamics people label as “findom” are actually:
femdom with paid content
service submission
attention buying
transactional BDSM
content purchasing
soft SPH/humiliation dynamics
or just regular sex work with a domination aesthetic
And honestly, I think mixing everything together waters down what actual findom is psychologically.
There’s also a difference between:
“pay me because I’m hot” vs “sending creates emotional arousal, submission, loss of control, devotion, sacrifice, or status reinforcement”
Those are not the same dynamic.
I’m curious where people personally draw the line.
Do you think modern findom has become too broad as a label?
Or do you think all financial exchange inside femdom falls under findom now?