u/throbbing-fantasy

I identify as a reader - the first book I remember really loving was Anne of Green Gables, as a kid on a long road trip. I was the same age as Harry Potter as those books came out so naturally that was a big part of my childhood. Nowadays though I don't know if I'd call myself a reader of books - more a listener. Audiobooks took a while to get used to, but they're such a great way to absorb books while driving or going for a walk.

Someone's taste in books surely tells you something about them? Let me give you some top faves:

1. In The Light Of What We Know by Zia Haider Rahman

This is possibly the most expertly told story I've ever had the pleasure of enjoying. The story itself is an interpersonal drama between two men with complicated love interests, a little political intrigue and a decidedly analytical bent to the style - the narrator is a former investment banker if I recall correctly. The vibe reminded me a little of The Reluctant Fundamentalist, which is also good, but the methodical way the story evolves *in the light of what you know* is masterful.

2. Harry Potter and the Methods Of Rationality by Eliezer Yudkowsky

This is better than the originals. Yeah. I said it. But it's *only* going to hit right if you're already a fan of the originals. The humour is wry and subtle at times and rewards a good knowledge of the original series. Unfortunately I'm unaware of any audiobook version and it's even hard to get in print due to copyright issues, but it's free online.

3. Destiny Disrupted by Tamim Ansary

I've come to love a good history book and this one is a wild page turner. The thesis of the book is that Western Europe and the Middle East, culturally, have different narratives of the arc of civilisation and that these two narratives are coming into active conflict in a globalised world. The book is an attempt to tell the Middle Eastern narrative for a Western audience. Amazingly engaging. How did I ever think history books would be boring!? Also not on audiobook unfortunately.

4. Ishmael by Daniel Quinn

I could talk about this book for days. It's got so much going on. A man responds to an ad in the newspaper purportedly posted by a teacher seeking an earnest student. The teacher turns out to be a telepathic gorilla who engages the man in a lengthy philosophical discourse. So good. My friend had left it lying around the campsite once. I picked it up and I didn't put it down until I was done. Vibe-wise think The Alchemist, or Jonathan Livingston Seagull, definitely thought provoking.

5. Project Hail Mary by Andy Weir

It's a little on the nose to recommend this since the movie just came out but this book blew my mind. Honestly, as a science-loving individual I never thought I liked science fiction because it's really just space cowboys or fantasy with robots. This book opened my eyes to an entirely new frontier of literature which is fiction, but full of science. Some sort of ... science fiction. Wild, right? Anyway, The Martian was dope, but this book is chef's kiss. I'm definitely keen for the release of whatever he's working on now!

I've always got plenty more! Want to talk books? Swap recs?

Happy to chat books, but on the backend of this I'm really looking to meet people. I am just running out of ways to try and convey my character  😅

PS Spicy post history, but if you enjoy reading, you might find something you like.

Seeking casual kink-related chats. As fun as it is to discuss specific sex acts, I also enjoy asking lots of questions and hearing how you feel about different acts / positions / dynamics etc.

Below are some descriptions of what I would describe as my 4 biggest kinks. Above everything else, I want to emphasise enthusiastic consent, I am not interested in non-con or dub-con dynamics. However, you don't have to align with me to chat with me. You are welcome to message and tell me what you do like, but also what you don't like. Could you see yourself regularly incorporating these kinks with a partner? Would you have reservations or objections or further requests?

Cumplay - this is the #1 kink that I want to include. It saturates every other kink and fantasy.

My biggest turn on is to cum on a woman, for her to relish it, spreading it on her skin and sucking every last drop from my cock. As we fuck, I want to hear her beg to be rewarded with hot spurts. I love sitting back and watching my cum played with, or smearing it around with my cock and having it slurped clean. The end is just the beginning. I want to be teased hard again for more sex and to cum all over.

How do you feel about cum? Do you drip at the thought of being left dripping?

Dirty talk and begging - you can be my little princess, my naughty minx, my sexy fuck toy, my cock hungry, cum thirsty whore or just simply my eager little cumslut. I enjoy lots of dirty talk, discussing how your body deserves to be used, how my cock belongs inside you and you ought to be rewarded with fresh creamy loads, one after another. Does it make you feel degraded or does it make you feel appreciated? Empowered? Sexy?

There's nothing hotter than a wet slut begging to worship cock, pleading to be filled and glazed with thick, hot, white cum as her body is touched and groped, her tits squeezed and her clit teased. A wanton little cumslut is to show her appreciation for every load with grateful words and by displaying the beautiful mess she's become. None of that precious sperm should be washed or wiped off, rather it should be smeared around, rubbed into her skin, licked off her fingers, and played with. After I baptise a woman in semen I want to hear her moaning at the sensation and the flavour; I want to see her revelling in the smell and texture; I want to see her slurping every drop from my cock, sucking me clean and begging me for more.

Is dirty talk as hot for you as for me? The name calling, the begging; wanton words make my brain short circuit. What are your favourite names to be called? How do you feel about calling your partner Sir? Master? Daddy?

No-holes-barred sex - give every inch of yourself to me. Let me fuck your pussy and mouth interchangeably, leaving you dripping from both ends, before stretching your ass around my throbbing rod. Squeeze your tits together as I fuck them, whether they're big enough or not, either way I'm sure you'll look delectable as I slide my cock across your chest. I want to make you feel like a sex toy and a cock worshipping goddess. I'm a big fan of oral, especially sloppy and deepthroat, although I only want you choking and gagging if it's going to get you hot - I'm not really interested in abuse or noncon.

Do you tingle at the thought of having every inch of your body fucked? Every hole stretched? Which hole would you want filled first?

Slutty outfits - whether you're a secretary, a cheerleader, a barista, etc, I love slutty outfits. To be honest, though, there's little I need more than heels, thigh high stockings and a mini skirt. Wear those and everything else is optional, you'll have me drooling and desperate to manhandle you!

What pathetic excuse for clothing would make you feel the dirtiest as we grope each other hungrily? Do you like your man to be naked, fully clothed, or something in between?

My limits include violence/toilet/beast/impreg/noncon.

There are plenty of questions here to get you thinking and give you something to reply to. But you can also start by simply telling me which of these 4 kinks is most/least appealing to you.

No, this isn't about the celebrity. This is about the "Madonna-Whore complex". In a nutshell it identifies a pattern wherein men want the perfect wholesome wife and mother to their children, while at the same time they want a naughty little whore to fuck how they please. The tension arises because men struggle to feel both things about the same person - is it love and respect or is it lust and dominance?

So what? Well this is often used by men to explain infidelity - "I wanted to do xyz, but I couldn't do it with my wife, she's the mother of my children" type beat.

I am sure there are women who want only love and respect - there are even some who only want lust and degradation, however I am sure that men are not the only ones who have both fantasies.

This is the tension I want to unpack - is it possible to have a loving and respectful relationship which hits the right wholesome notes, but which also involves a dimension of depravity and hedonism?

Are we all supposed to fuck around having unfulfilling casual sex, and then 'get serious' and settle into a relationship where the sex will never be as hot as what we want? I'm sure I'm not the only man who would love to find a partner who can be everything to him; and I'm sure there are women who want to be everything to their partner.

Honestly, I feel like everyone's so shy now, so repressed, so uncomfortable being vulnerable and so ashamed of their desires - perhaps I'm just projecting? I think a lot of people assume I'm anti-feminist, but low key I think the point of feminism is that it's no one's business but your own to determine what lifestyle you can/can't pursue on the basis of your sex. You can be a scientist, or an accountant, or a teacher, or a housewife or even an OF creator - the spirit of feminism is to not gatekeep based on sex or gender.

This isn't about feminism, though, this is about the fact that we have one life, one chance to make choices we won't regret. This is about human psychology, relationship dynamics, emotional needs, carnal desires. This is about deeply integrating and reconciling the madonna with the whore.

I want to chat about experiences, fantasies, expectations. What is realistic? What is unhinged? Should some fantasies remain fantasies and not be acted on even if both people share them?

My post history will reveal far more vulgar language, but I wanted to take a step back and really try and strike at the heart of the tension my posts all dance around - the tension between the madonna and the whore.

What's your perspective - do you want to be both? Could you be both with the same partner?

We met at a friend’s barbecue, sparks flying over shared laughs and stolen glances under the summer sun. Months later, we’re that enviable couple - planning cute date nights like picnics in the park or cozy dinners at home, snapping selfies with goofy filters, building a life that's equal parts tender affection and everyday adventure. But one evening, after a few drinks loosened our tongues on the couch, I confess a wild, simmering desire: you as my devoted freeuse cumslut, moving in with me, quitting the outside world to tend to our home in the skimpiest outfits while I handle the providing from my online work. Picture yourself strutting in heels, thigh-high stockings, and a tiny mini skirt that barely covers anything, dropping to your knees at a moment's notice to worship my cock, begging desperately for thick, hot cum to paint your pretty face, drip from your lips, or fill your eager holes - pussy, mouth, throat, ass - whenever the urge strikes me. Maybe we'd spice it up with playful rules: you keeping my cock warm and wet in your mouth during my work calls, or incorporating cum into your daily routine as a fun, unrealistic "diet" element, slurping it down with meals or as a reward for good behavior. In public, we’re the picture of wholesomeness - holding hands at the grocery store, laughing with friends - but your subtle winks or the way you shift in your seat hint at the secret debauchery waiting behind closed doors, like the buttplug you might be wearing or the fresh load still lingering on your skin.

How would you react if I brought this up again, sober this time, over morning coffee as the sun filters through the kitchen window? Does the idea of constant availability and cum-soaked submission excite you to your core, making you wet at the thought of being my eager three-holed fucktoy, or does it intimidate you with its intensity and one-sided vibe? Would you feel flattered to be the sole object of my desires, or worried about losing the innocent magic of our relationship? I’m craving honest, candid chats about this fantasy - your raw turn-ons, any hesitations or boundaries, and how we’d realistically make it work without it consuming everything. We could roleplay that pivotal morning-after talk where I gauge if you're still enthusiastic, act out a debauched night that spirals from TV time into hours of cumplay and rough sex, or explore whatever twist you suggest to keep things fresh. I love ongoing, unhurried chats that build organically over days or weeks, blending the smutty details with real talk about favorite music, go-to meals, or even deeper stuff like what makes us tick.

Kinks: Freeuse (how does constant access sound?), cumplay (what's your favorite spot to receive it, and why does it drive you wild?), dirty talk (what are your go-to names to be called, like cum thirsty whore or eager fucktoy?), no-holes-barred (ever tried anal or deepthroat, or up for training?), slutty outfits (what combo makes you feel dirtiest?), domestic servitude (cooking and cleaning in lingerie while begging for rewards?).

Limits: Noncon/gore/toilet/beast/impreg/underage. Enthusiastic consent is non-negotiable - we discuss it all upfront and check in often.

To start: Share one or two of your favorite kinks, and answer a question from at least one kink above to show you've read and are engaged.

How to describe myself in a way which reveals some of my character without revealing my identity?
As an experiment, let me describe 5 things I see around me in my room.

1. A postcard on the wall with a cartoon teddybear puzzling over some nonsense maths. It's cute. I think I found it on the train. I've had it for at least a decade. I did a maths degree and totally relate to this perplexed pooh bear pondering why 1+1 doesn't equal 11.
2. A bike helmet that I haven't worn since I moved back to the suburbs from the city. I bought that bike to commute during the covid lockdowns. Commuting through the eastern suburbs with no traffic, no pollution, those were the days.
3. A portable speaker, currently playing some smooth beats to set the mood to go out. I bought it for a camping trip with a boy I mentor earlier this year. We went to a spot I haven't been to in many years and the wildlife was thriving 😍 - but the river was muddy and full of carp 😞
4. Two white dress shirts hanging, waiting to be washed. I don't even know when I wore the nicer one, it must have been years ago now. Probably a friend's wedding. The second one was definitely to a wedding. I wish I'd had the other one cleaned in time haha. I am afraid to spoil the white when I wash it because I don't have enough white things to do a full load. I suppose at this point I should just wash it on its own and put it away... lol... Good call chat. Obviously I don't dress up often.
5. A clean, folded, fitted sheet I still need to put away. I had a friend visit recently and had to change the sheet on the fold out mattress, which I left on after I had someone visit a month or so ago. I thought they'd be back to use it again so I was lazy haha.

I get a mix of messages. Most are people asking questions or making comments. It's interesting to hear various perspectives and have random little chats even if the vibe isn't a perfect match.

Seeking a genuine connection. Not looking for hookups. Prefer to chat first to pick up a vibe rather than rush to meet.

Tall, employed, educated, knowledge worker. Had a 6 year relationship that ended almost 9 years ago in which I discovered that I don't need to defend myself when someone tells me how I made them feel, I need to listen and acknowledge it. I also helped my partner navigate mental health crises, and salvage the relationship when it was on the rocks after she decided to become an adult performer. Ultimately, I learned that time marches on, and there's no point spending it with the wrong person.

There's a large gap on my 'resume' which was a few years of short rebound relationships followed by a long period of singledom looking for someone. You? Idk.

I'm creative, a bit of a dreamer, and also quite analytical. Spicy post history. Be warned.

Equanimous dude, introverted and thoughtful. University educated, full time employed - more like 'pyjama pants' than blue collar or white collar. Business owner, community organiser. Slightly eccentric and genuinely caring person.

I believe what matters is what's underneath, the heart and mind that animates us. We all have complex inner worlds, dreams and expectations. We have rich and not-entirely-internally-consistent identities and stories we tell ourselves about who we are and what we're doing. We have desires and beliefs about what we want and need in a partner. Whatever I say to describe myself will be incomplete and whatever I say about what I'm looking for will inevitably fail to capture the truth.

I want to believe I will find someone I resonate with. To experience a crush again, to feel infatuated, the serotonin dump of enjoying mutual attraction. But I am 35. If I want children I need to think of them, too. I can't be out here wasting anyone's time, let alone my own. Lord knows I certainly want to enjoy getting to know someone pretty damn intimately for a while before having children with them.

What matters to me isn't a specific body type or hair colour or level of ambition. It is more about how I feel when I look at you, how I feel when you tell me about your life. Do we have too many things to say and not enough time? Or too much time and not enough words? Is silence comfortable? Do you give back when your cup is full?

Yes, mutual attraction, family planning, lifestyle goals, sexual compatibility, these things all matter too.

No pressure. Lol. I just want to chat and share a genuine human connection before we share photos and think of meeting.

I realise that I am being fairly blunt and direct. I don't want lots of messages, I am not trying to please a lot of palates. The person I am looking for should first and foremost be comfortable with prioritising truth over manners or comfort, perhaps my abruptness is the first filter. I'm not here to act 'cool', I'm here to be real... whatever that means...

It's been said that the medium is the message, and while I do have SFW socials, ofc, I have made this post on my nsfw account for a specific reason. This is an account I use for sexting and my penpal posts are more or less a distilled insight into a part of my mind around which I feel a fair degree of shame and internal conflict, but which is none-the-less a part of who I am.

So consider my post history the next test. I would never discuss that content or share it with people I know irl, but it's definitely going to be relevant knowledge for any future partner of mine, might as well fly the flag early.

All these words and I've basically told you nothing. But hopefully I've laid down a vibe. I really mean it when I say equanimous, introverted and thoughtful. But fyi, I'm putting a third test - if you message me, and want to show you read my whole post, tell me one name you'd never give a child.

If you feel a twinge of curiosity still, send me a message. I know I was super serious in this post, but I'm definitely happy to shoot the shit and have a chat. I'm on my phone so much anyway, I like a few fresh voices and perspectives in my DMs.

Looking for chat partners more than roleplay. I am interested in exploring sweet and dirty dynamics within a loving couple.

Premise:

We've been dating for a while, or perhaps are even newly married. Despite seeming cute and wholesome in public, within the privacy of our own home we have a strong sexual dynamic. You are expected to dress in skimpy and revealing outfits and to make yourself available for use at all times. Yes, you're the love of my life, my best friend, my partner in crime, but you're also my eager, needy little cum addicted three holed fucktoy. I encourage you to lean into your sexual side, to embrace the lust, the degradation, the elegant pleasure of surrender.

There are a few kinks I am specifically interested in incorporating:

Cumplay: my cum validates you, rewards your hard work, symbolises how sexy you are and how much pleasure you've given me. I am not so interested in impregnation, so, ironically, rather than in your pussy, my favourite places to present you with your reward are on your tits, your face, your mouth, or even deep inside your throat or ass. I want to see how much you love it; smear it over your skin and show me how happily you lick up every remaining drop from your fingers or my cock.

No Holes Barred sex / free use / cockwarming: I'm lumping these together because they all represent the same things - your unwavering and enthusiastic consent. There's no non con here, not even dubious consent. Your body is mine, my toy, every hole exists for my pleasure; mouth, throat, pussy and ass. Yes, sometimes we will make love. Yes, sometimes I will fuck you roughly to release some stress. Yes, sometimes I will want you to simply suck my cock, or sit on it, while we watch TV, or while I'm working at my desk. Other times I may sit back and enjoy the show as I watch you fuck yourself with my hard cock.

Dirty talk: There are two main flavours of dirty talk I like to explore, name calling and begging. I enjoy calling you 'degrading' names, except for me they're expressions of affection, terms of endearment, words of power. Some women might feel devalued when called a slut, but I know that you understand the profound appreciation and reverence behind my words when I praise you for being *my* perfect cumslut. In a similar vein, I don't like begging in the context of begging for mercy, but more like a whiny child who wants candy. I love being begged for my cock and cum, hearing how much you want and need to be my fucktoy.

Slutty outfits/makeup: My taste is simple, although flexible. An easy cheatsheet is to wear a micro skirt, thigh high stockings, high heels and a choker. That will do. You are now dressed. While we all love natural beauty, makeup can help you accentuate your sexuality, and I enjoy the delicious progression as your are transformed from a magazine cover girl, to a use whore with running eyeliner and smeared lipstick.

Limits are: noncon, violence, abose, gore, vore, toilet, beast, underage, impreg

There are many aspects of this to unpack - how did we establish this dynamic? Perhaps we met on fetlife and knew from the start that we were kinky. Or perhaps we were both shy and it took trust and many conversations for us to begin to truly admit and explore our fantasies. Would you take to it like a fish to water, or would you perhaps need me to be patient with certain aspects, perhaps training and conditioning you to enjoy the taste of my cum, or the feeling of my cock in your throat and ass? Do we have rules we must follow around the house? And, importantly, how do we manage our kinky freeuse lifestyle while also maintaining an emotionally healthy and respectful relationship? If you read everything and want me to know that this prompt really resonated with you, you can do so by telling me which of these 4 kinks you like the most in your first message.

You weren't always a drooling mess of spit and cum and you hadn't always been a needy, eagerly begging three-holed fucktoy. Once upon a time we were just a regular couple, with a standard sex life. We would have cute date nights - dinner and a movie, a walk by the river and then return home after a few drinks. We'd enjoy a little foreplay, and then have sex; maybe a little doggy, maybe a little missionary; and then we'd snuggle up and go to bed.

Now, whenever we're home, you're dressed in next to nothing; mini skirts, thigh high stockings, heels, perhaps a choker or a collar; you start each day with immaculate makeup, although throughout the day it becomes smeared and ruined. When not actively submitting your holes for my use, or patiently keeping my cock warm and wet while I focus on my work, you are writhing and moaning nearby as you play with your own body, talking dirty and begging to be used, desperate to distract me and feel the validation of my arousal as I enjoy the wonderland that is your body. Through it all, you're focused on one thing - the warm satisfaction of being rewarded for your efforts with yet another load of fresh cum.

How did this happen? Is this what you always wanted, or was it my influence that lead you down this path? Perhaps you would never have agreed to it if we hadn't taken it in baby steps, slowly easing your progression over years. Or maybe we decided to do it for one weekend, and it was so gratifying that neither of us wanted it to end? Or maybe if I even suggested such a thing you'd be horrified at the thought?

I want to discuss the origin story. I enjoy realistic discussions about what you think you would like or wouldn't like. What you think you would be comfortable with or wouldn't be comfortable with. Are there things I say I want which you think won't be as fun as I imagine, or ways in which my expectations are impractical? How would we be in public? Would you wear less and less, or perhaps cover yourself even more conservatively in front of others, saving the sight of your body for my eyes only? Of course we can also discuss what it might actually be like, playing out some slices of life in our new dynamic.

You don't need to pretend to be something you aren't, let's connect honestly, explore our desires, and see if we can have fun while we do it 😉

The fantasy is generic - a partner to have and to hold, who also has holes I can have for myself whenever I want. When I call her my three holed fucktoy it isn't to degrade her but to put into words the unreasonably perfect gift she has given me in the form of herself.

No noncon. I don't want to hurt or harm my partner, however, consent is indispensable. A perfect match would be as enthusiastically eager to be used as I would be to use her. I want to hear the word yes, not no, and I want to see smiles, not frowns.

That doesn't mean the sex can't be rough. However, if I were to ever fuck your throat or ass the way I can pound your pussy, we may need to take our time and practice. Nothing is impossible with patience and determination. It sounds like a fun way to spend some cute quality time together, bonding over our shared vision. I know it's not the same as when we make love, gentle and affectionate, I imagine you'll enjoy it in a different spirit.

Submitting, surrendering to me, body and mind, wholly focused on the single most undeniable metric of your value - my cum. It's your prize, your reward, your mission objective. I want to see your hunger and desire, to hear you beg, to feel your need. I want you to enjoy it, relish it, romanticise it. After a facial, you wouldn't wipe or wash it off your face - every last drop should be swallowed, and any remaining traces should be smeared and rubbed into your skin.

To have a friend to hang out with while WFH, a good companion, but also a cock worshipping cumthirsty slut - \*my\* cockworshipping cumthirsty slut - that is the simple premise I am presenting. You tease me, beg me, dress up for me, edge yourself for me, pamper me, play with me and generally embrace the sense of purpose that you derive from my pleasure.

With this premise, there are plethora possible scenarios - onlyfans couple, digital nomads in remote destination, luxury life in a big city penthouse, ride or die outlaw couple. Roleplaying scenarios is fun, but I like to begin with a bit of human connection and discussion of kinks to make sure we're on the same wavelength. If the chat is good enough, the roleplay will happen on its own. For example, freeuse is a pretty intense dynamic which can end up being very one-sided. How would we manage this? Would we have rules in place?

Kinks: oral, deepthroat, pussy, anal, cum, cumplay, training, dirty talk, begging, praise and degradation, slutty outfits, messy, freeuse, cockwarming, domestic bliss.

Limits: non-con, violence, gore, toilet, underage, beast, pregnancy

The fantasy is generic - a partner to have and to hold, who also has holes I can have for myself whenever I want. When I call her my three holed fucktoy it isn't to degrade her but to put into words the unreasonably perfect gift she has given me in the form of herself.

No noncon. I don't want to hurt or harm my partner, however, consent is indispensable. A perfect match would be as enthusiastically eager to be used as I would be to use her. I want to hear the word yes, not no, and I want to see smiles, not frowns.

That doesn't mean the sex can't be rough. However, if I were to ever fuck your throat or ass the way I can pound your pussy, we may need to take our time and practice. Nothing is impossible with patience and determination. It sounds like a fun way to spend some cute quality time together, bonding over our shared vision. I know it's not the same as when we make love, gentle and affectionate, I imagine you'll enjoy it in a different spirit.

Submitting, surrendering to me, body and mind, wholly focused on the single most undeniable metric of your value - my cum. It's your prize, your reward, your mission objective. I want to see your hunger and desire, to hear you beg, to feel your need. I want you to enjoy it, relish it, romanticise it. After a facial, you wouldn't wipe or wash it off your face - every last drop should be swallowed, and any remaining traces should be smeared and rubbed into your skin.

To have a friend to hang out with while WFH, a good companion, but also a cock worshipping cumthirsty slut - \*my\* cockworshipping cumthirsty slut - that is the simple premise I am presenting. You tease me, beg me, dress up for me, edge yourself for me, pamper me, play with me and generally embrace the sense of purpose that you derive from my pleasure.

With this premise, there are plethora possible scenarios - onlyfans couple, digital nomads in remote destination, luxury life in a big city penthouse, ride or die outlaw couple. Roleplaying scenarios is fun, but I like to begin with a bit of human connection and discussion of kinks to make sure we're on the same wavelength. If the chat is good enough, the roleplay will happen on its own. For example, freeuse is a pretty intense dynamic which can end up being very one-sided. How would we manage this? Would we have rules in place?

Kinks: oral, deepthroat, pussy, anal, cum, cumplay, training, dirty talk, begging, praise and degradation, slutty outfits, messy, freeuse, cockwarming, domestic bliss.

Limits: non-con, violence, gore, toilet, underage, beast, pregnancy