Just wanted to share my story. Seven years ago, I met my (now) husband when i was 22 and he was 42. I always had a thing for older/middle aged men since I was a teenager but obviously didn’t act on it. I probably have daddy issues which I know is the go to stereotype people assume. I barely dated in high school and was soooo bored with the guys my age. When i got to college, i lost my virginity to a 34 year old in my college town whom i met on a dating app. I still dated guys my age tho to please my family/hide my true attraction. I had a couple relationships with older men but kept them secret. Fast forward to 7 years ago, I met my future husband at the local bar. We found out that we used to live right across the street from each other for 2 years (before i moved apartments). Almost like it was destiny ☺️ We hooked up that night and he gave me my first ever orgasm and well, I wasn’t going anywhere lol.
Anyways, 6 months later I was unexpectedly pregnant and my relationship had to come to light to my family. My mom was so upset and got her side of the family to agree with her. I heard things from them like “I hope he leaves her”, calling him a dead beat, don’t give our child his last name, and don’t stay with him or even marry just because I’m pregnant. My own mother flat out asked if the baby was for sure his (there was never any doubt) because she was so ashamed of my relationship. We went on quite a few vacations and my family was so worried like he was going to k*ll me while away. WTF, right?! We ended up getting secretly married when our baby was 8 months old and didn’t announce it until a week later. My family was so upset yet they did nothing but judge us all along. The day we got married (in our tiny ceremony with a couple close friends) an older woman asked what was going on. When we said it was our wedding, she said “ohh…” looked us up and down and walked away.
Despite all the hate and judgement, we never let it affect us (that was just some of it lol). It all eventually passed and here we are Three kids later happy as ever. I am almost 30 now so I feel like no one really blinks an eye too much at this point. But I am thankful to have him and our kids in my life, I am my true self with him and we are perfect for each other in every way. I can’t imagine how life would be if I let everyone’s opinions get to me!