Hi I’m John, M29 Chinese based in Singapore. I’ve been with my (first and only) partner for almost 10 years. Everything is great except for the fact that we’re becoming more like family than romantic partner. I miss the excitement and newness from starting a new connection, the suspense, and the buildup of tension. It’s been awhile since I last felt desired since the day to day has became a routine like a pre-written script where we just expect each other to show up.
I’m hoping to meet someone in a similar situation. To be upfront I could be a little picky. This is a secrecy on top of our full time real life after all - I’d rather wait a good connection than to jump onto the first thing that comes my way. I understand we’re all human and sexual intimacy plays a huge part of our lives, but I hope this is more than that. I would like to connect emotionally first and get to know each other before we go that way, and if it doesn’t we don’t have to force it either, whatever’s comfortable.
A quick intro about me: I work as a financial analyst where my day to day is just hiding behind the screen crunching numbers. I don’t enjoy social connection generally so I don’t have a lot of friends either. Since I only have limited mental resource and time, I prefer to be selective on how I spend them so I’m quite close to the few friends I have. I have a lot of interest, stemming from my passion to learn new things. Physical appearance wise I’m lean, typical Chinese looking nerd (in a cute way)
If this catches your attention, I’d love to hear which part of my post made you reach out to me as an ice breaker