Long-distance sex toys: help
Hey, everyone. After researching and reading online for hours, I decided to come to the source (Reddit, obviously). I am feeling lost and need whatever guidance you can offer.
Brief summary: I (F40s) and my… person (M40s) live in different countries. I am in the U.S. and he is in Scandinavia. We are ISO a vibrating toy for me, preferably one that can satisfy both the clit and G-spot, that he can control (via app or some method) where he lives.
Neither of us have looked for a device like this before. My primary concern is finding something confirmed to work across very long distances. I don’t know if such a thing exists, though I have read a few dubious claims in toy descriptions.
I have looked at We-Vibe (Rave 2) and various items on Lovense. While I read great things about Rave 2 — sounds amazing — I have also read repeatedly, including in recent app store reviews, that the long-distance app connection is finicky at best and cannot be relied upon.
Onto Lovense. I read that their products are not quite as good as Rave 2, but that they have a stable long-distance connection. But here is the issue with Lovense: every item I saw that could connect long-distance will only do so through a secondary device for him that must be penetrated or shaken. He is very well-endowed and has been unable to find a fleshlight device in the past that he could use without destroying in short order. (Any fleshlight recommendations for a girthy 8”-9” guy would be appreciated, too).
What we really want, geographical concerns aside, is something that he can control in order to pleasure *me* long-distance. We would rather avoid products like those on Lovense, where a toy requires another paired toy that must be used in order to sync. That is different from him having control over my pleasure as the primary focus.
In short: HELP. Does such a toy exist? Where should I look? Do any of you have personal experience with long-distance toys? Can you direct me toward any reputable resources? Any knowledge or advice you can offer would be greatly appreciated.