Hey all, first time posting here, although I've been lurking, and I need a little help on a problem ive ran into. A month or two ago, i bought my first packer, absolutely in love with how affirming it is and i feel like i can't go without anymore. Obviously, though, since it was my first time buying one i made some mistakes, the color is a bit too dark for me and such. I had settled on the Axolom echo, a good average size, i didn't want anything big as I would be too nervous, it took me awhile to wear the echo confidently, to be honest. Despite this, it seems so... small. Like, not even slightly too small, it feels comically small when i look in the mirror. Im a larger guy, 5'8 with quite a bit of extra weight on my legs, pretty insecure about my curves but i digress. I guess that may be my problem, but the average AMAB flaccid length is around 3 inches, and my height isn't out of the ordinary. Regardless, I would like to get a larger one to feel less dysphoric, but i cant help but feel like I shouldn't. I always see posts elsewhere about 'trans guys always pick way too big packers' and how its ridiculous and they should pick smaller ones because its more natural. I also feel like it would be too, inappropriate? Lewd, almost, if it were bigger. I have a young daughter so I dont want to seem promiscuous in any way, and even having a packer has been hard for my OCD, thinking I'm a bad person for wearing one.
I know if i get any comments, they will mostly be along the lines of 'do what makes you comfortable'. But, in addition to that if anyone has any commentary on what ive said and anything to help the way im feeling about this id much appreciate it, thank you.