I give free erotic massages to a woman [50sF] who turns out to be my colleague's mom. She just invited me to her grandson's birthday party through her son, who has no idea about our arrangement. Should I go?
I'm a 32-year-old man who works in IT. One of my hobbies is that I give free erotic massages to women in my free time – it's something I enjoy and am good at, and I do it purely as a way to help people relax and feel better.
For the past three months, I've been giving regular massages (2-3 times per week) to a woman in her 50s. She's been dealing with grief after losing a loved one in her family a few months ago, and she's told me that our sessions have been helping her cope and feel happier. We've always kept this arrangement discreet .
Here's where things get complicated. A few weeks ago, I was shopping at a grocery store when I saw her with a man who turned out to be her son. he's my colleague – we work at the same office, just on different teams. I've talked to him a few times about work-related matters, but we're not particularly close outside of professional settings.
When I saw them, he introduced me to his mom (since he doesn't know about our arrangement). The three of us chatted for a few minutes. She even gave me suggestions about the sauce and cheese I had in my cart and we discussed some recipes – just normal, casual conversation.
I've continued giving her massages after this encounter, and now she's invited me to her grandson's birthday party. What's making this complicated is how she did it – she asked her son (my colleague) to invite me, making it seem like a normal invitation. She also told her son that she wanted to talk to me about recipes for the party and needed my phone number, even though she already has it. This was clearly a way to make the invitation seem appropriate to her son.
When I expressed that it might not be appropriate for me to attend a family event, she told me again how much the massages have been helping her through her grief and that she would be happy if I came. She reassured me that our massage arrangement would be kept discreet.
So now I'm in a tough spot. Her son has invited me to what he thinks is just a normal birthday party for his nephew, not knowing about my relationship with his mother. I'm worried about the potential awkwardness or complications that could arise if I attend. At the same time, I don't want to disappoint this woman who seems to genuinely value our sessions and the emotional support they provide.
Should I go to the birthday party or politely decline?
What would you do in this situation?