It’s kinda unsettling that so many girls think their first time is SUPPOSE to hurt. This surprised me and a lot of my HGS. It’s not. There shouldn’t be any pain especially not long term and unbearable pain (discomfort or feeling nervous and vulnerable for both genders can be normal because it’s something new) but it should never be bad pain unless it’s something like vaginismus. My question is why do so many people think it’s supposed to hurt? Is the lack of sex ed? Where did this myth come from?
I understand there are cases like this where it can but majority of women should not be expecting pain for our first time and you should not be worried. The hymen doesn’t break its an elastic band, when it tears or stretches a lot of people shouldn’t feel pain, a lot of us don’t even bleed or feel it and it usually happens with self exploration or when we are kids or some of us are born without one. It does not “break” during sex it’s not a thin wall. If it does “tear” it’s a small split.
Pain is caused by lack of foreplay, not turned on, not enough lubrication, too fast and being nervous foreplay is very important please don’t think pain is suppose to happen and you have to endure it. Please take your time and don’t think you are suppose to push through the pain. Good sex should not hurt. Sorry if you already knew this but I wanted to share for the women and teens who do not.