u/Any_Working908

I’ve been married for 3 years and I genuinely love my wife, but I can’t seem to stop looking at and flirting with curvy women. It started as harmless attention, but now it’s almost automatic whenever I’m out. I swear, it’s like whenever I see a curvy woman or girl with cleavage, it’s like I forget I have a ring on.

So I’m away for a business trip and one night after an important presentation, at the end of the night, I go down to the hotel bar for a nightcap. While I’m there, I notice a woman. Beautiful, blonde, curves in all the right spots. I hear her order the same drink as me and I look over at her and… my god, I swear she knew what she was doing because her cleavage… it looked like her chest was gonna spill out of her shirt. I struck up a conversation with her and we ended up talking for over an hour, getting closer. She put her hand on my thigh and I got really close and I swear I forgot I was married. This girl basically had me in a trance. She asked if I was staying here and I said yeah. She started to walk me to the elevator and on the way there, we ended up kissing and making out. It’s like my brain shut off. All I could do was kiss her and my hands explored her body the entire elevator ride. As we got to my floor, all of a sudden, my phone started ringing and I saw it was my wife. I got cold feet and I told her I had to go. I picked up the phone and started talking to my wife

I swear to god, that phone call was my saving grace. If she didn’t call me at that exact moment, I don’t think I would have stopped myself. Now all I can do is try to be a better husband. But the issue is, that moment is living rent free in my head. What do I do?

About a week ago, I met a woman at the mall, just minding my own business when she struck up a conversation out of nowhere at the store she worked at. She was confident and clearly knew the effect she had.she was basically the stereotype of one of my exact “types”. Short, thick, curvy Latina. Big ass and tits, and cleavage it was hard to take my eyes off

We ended up walking and talking for a bit, and the whole time the vibe kept getting more obvious. I mentioned I was married, thinking that would shut it down, but it didn’t faze her at all. If anything, she leaned into it more, joking about how that didn’t have to matter and that we could exchange numbers

I won’t lie, for a moment I actually felt tempted. Like REALLY tempted. I got one of her social medias and we talked on there for a good amount of time. One night, she sent me a pic of her cleavage while we were talking but my wife was near so I told her to stop and that I wasn’t interested and she blocked me on everything.

But now… I can’t stop thinking about it. What would have happened if I kept going? It’s like… it sent me down a rabbit hole and now I’m more tempted than ever to cheat. What do I do? How do I get this out of my head? I feel like if I keep spiraling, eventually I’m gonna go through with it…