u/ConnectionFormal8250

Been in an open marriage for almost two years after dating in an open relationship for 5. Husbands has a very high sex drive that I unfortunately can’t keep up with but enjoy hearing about his hookups and getting pics and videos. He recently brought up a convo with someone who he claimed to just be sexting with that gave me a weird vibe, saying that this dude’s bf felt cheated on but didn’t elaborate much. Didn’t push the topic at first but curiosity got to me and asked him if I could maybe read the convo for more context and he got defensive with his phone, decided to snoop tonight after he literally said “It’d be less weird if you just looked while I was sleeping” and found out that not only has he been sleeping with this man but his partner was angry because he might have an STD and was worried that it might’ve spread to my husband. As of a few days ago he told my husband that his boyfriend’s results were inconclusive… on top of that he told this man multiple times that he still basically loves his ex and wants to be single again… husband is currently asleep and I have no idea what to say when he wakes up. 🥲