Wife considers conceiving boyfriends child, I have questions for those who have.
So my wife and I have been in the lifestyle for many years on and off; both love it, but life gets busy and all.
We do have one child, and she is currently pregnant with our second one. We joked about it before, like, "imagine if" her boyfriend knocked her up and not me, and I said that if it did ever happen I would accept the consequences of it, and she was kind of taken back but surprised in a somewhat neutral way.
After discussing her giving birth to our second child, she said that she doesn't know if she is ready to have a full hysterectomy. (we discussed this with her gynie some time back because she has endo and he suggested it after our next child.)
she then went on to suggest that she might want to try for a third with someone else to experience "something different," granted everything was discussed thoroughly and plans were put in place.
Please leave the hateful/nasty comments out, this child would be loved as our/my own.
(That's the backstory in a nutshell.)
Questions:
1: How does one come to terms when the child is born and doesn't resemble mom or Dad? how does one go about navigating this to family?
2: what are some things one needs to be aware of from your experience in this type of situation apart from the obvious?
- Would it be better to keep the biological father around for his upbringing, or should it be something that my wife and I decide?
4: What are some tips that would make this easier on all of us?
I appreciate any feedback, as stated, please keep the hateful/nasty comments to yourself.
Cheers.