Help me give her the gift of pain
Hello, all!
I’m new here and looking for advice on exploring pain play more intentionally and safely with my partner.
My partner enjoys intense pain, especially deep, sore, bruising-type pain. For example, she loves when I grip and squeeze the skin on her back hard enough to leave bruising and lingering soreness. She often enjoys the aftereffects the next day as much as the moment itself.
What she generally does not enjoy is sharp or stingy pain, such as pinching, whipping, or similar sensations. Her preference is more along the lines of deep pressure, rough gripping, and having her back “fucked up,” as she puts it.
For those with experience in this area, what types of pain, techniques, tools, or forms of impact/pressure play might be worth researching or carefully exploring together? I’d also appreciate any good safety-focused resources.
We communicate extensively, use safewords, and are trying to learn more before escalating anything.
I appreciate your input!