u/Difficult_Hat4367

Hello. Been trying for a little while to find the right fit and just haven’t found it yet. I’ve about a decade of experience in BDSM but not in the past seven years. But the itch is pulling me back.

Full transparency, I’m married and my wife is aware of this. She’s very much asexual and knows that this is a craving I need satiated. This will be my first time stepping outside my marriage. I’m hoping to find someone who is alright with this arrangement, as the only rule with my wife is that this doesn’t impact our family life at all.

My main areas of interest are pain (nothing permanent/no blood) orgasm control and degradation. Would love to find someone in the southeast Michigan area for in person meetups but open to online as well.

Hope to hear from you.

I’m a 38-year-old Dominant in the Ann Arbor / southeast Michigan area, and I’m finally ready to step back into the world I’ve always craved. I have years of rich BDSM experience from before marriage, and now—with my wife’s full knowledge and enthusiastic blessing—I’m opening this chapter again. She supports me exploring the Dominant side of myself completely, as long as it stays separate from our family life. Discretion is assured, and I bring the same care and intentionality to this as I do to everything else.

What I offer is more than just scenes. I create immersive, mind-altering power exchanges where pain becomes pleasure, control becomes surrender, and degradation becomes the most exquisite form of intimacy. My passions run deep:

• Pain play that leaves you marked, trembling, and aching in the most delicious ways
• Orgasm control, denial, and edging that turns you into a desperate, dripping mess begging for release you may or may not receive
• Verbal and physical degradation that strips you down, humiliates you beautifully, and rebuilds you as mine

I love the full package—the raw physical intensity paired with the psychological headspace of true ownership. I want a submissive who genuinely craves being hurt, used, controlled, and put firmly in her place. The one who feels most alive when she’s on her knees, marked, denied, and completely surrendered to a man who knows exactly how to break her down and cherish every shattered piece.

Communication, negotiation, and aftercare are sacred to me. Even with my experience, I approach every connection with fresh eyes, deep respect, and an unwavering commitment to your safety and emotional well-being. You will always be seen, heard, and cared for—before, during, and long after the scene ends.

You:
Any age. Any experience level. Whether you’re a curious novice or a seasoned masochist, if you’re local to the Ann Arbor / southeast Michigan area and this resonates in your core, I want to hear from you. I’d love to start slow—messages that spark tension, voice and video that build anticipation—then move to in-person meetings only when the connection feels right and the trust is solid.

If you’re the submissive who aches for exactly what I’ve described… tell me about yourself. Share your desires, your hard limits, your softest cravings, and what you’re truly hoping to find in a Dominant. I’m not looking for perfection—I’m looking for you, raw and ready.

I’m selective, intentional, and very much looking forward to meeting the woman who’s ready to surrender.

Are you her?

Write to me.