I’ve been rethinking how I identify sexually. I used to feel pretty solidly like a lesbian, I am very butch and been on T for a while, but over the past few months after separating from my ex-wife, I explored being with men again. I did enjoy it at first, sought out a good six guys until I found a steady and serious straight guy for a FWB-but that desire has faded, and now I find myself craving connection with women again. It feels a bit disconnected now when he fucks me. I just let him use me. The idea turns me on but physically it won’t make me orgasm like it did at first. I’m wondering if anyone else has experienced something like this where attraction shifts depending on where you are emotionally or in life?
With men, I don’t tend to get emotionally attached in the same way as I do with a woman, which has made those experiences feel more “detached” or easier in many ways. Things feel predictable and non-chaotic. But now I’m in a situation where my FWB might be catching feelings, and it’s making me anxious about how to handle it.
Has anyone navigated something similar like both in terms of shifting attraction and managing expectations in casual dynamics? I’m thinking testosterone made me really crave cock. I hate to admit it but I would sneak a little naught moments with guys in the past but nothing of the sort like I’ve recently experienced with these men. Having a hysterectomy makes a hell of a difference, too.