Why denial makes you better, and why i always keep my subs under some form of control or denial.
At first one would think that the point of this kink, the point of keeping oneself from reaching climax is just to prolong the pleasurable state you are in when aroused.
I will not lie that when i started being interested in denial and orgasm control many years ago, it was really mostly because i liked being in control, i liked taking decisions for others, so why wouldn't i want to control when my subs can touch and when they can have an orgasm?
I quickly realized that it was so much more than that. Whenever i kept a sub denied she behaved differently. She was happier. She was more obedient. Brats stopped being brats, they became needy. Needy of being told what to do, needy of being rewarded for what they were doing for themselves, with me as their proxy.
It wasn't me who conquered them, it wasn't about me winning and getting what i wanted. Having them reach that state is not and was never a selfish act; i do it for them.
Women are happier and better whenever they manage to free themselves from orgasms and keep themselves perpetually aroused. And having the honor of being the one that turns their desires, needs and wants into reality while keeping up the pretense that i am deciding for them is the absolute best thing about being a dom.