u/Fernando_Dom

There is a strong feeling across multiple subreddits that I got into the last years that findom is decaying. As a relative unexperienced dom that only got in all this already in the content creation era, I would like to know, the problem is that y'all don't talk anymore?

I mean talking as in knowing the people that you want to interact with and, especially from the subs, letting them know what do YOU like. Findom is a genre inside BDSM, BDSM is an expression from our sex spectrum, we are not machines, we are human with feelings. Even in a dynamic that revolves power there are safe words, preferences, limits, compatibility.

Almost ever experience that I had over this few years, besides the trolls, are people expecting doms to be an "100% alpha", that don't care for the subs preferences or fellings, it's always:

- What do you like?

- I like what the dom likes. Just use me.

Like, C'MON. You can't have a minimal personality or desire? I get doing this later in the relationship, when you two already made a connection and you like this dynamic, but on the beginning? It would be better if you jack off to an AI that tells every single thing you would like to hear.

I could rob a bank, I could commit tax fraud, I couls start creating content, but that's not the point. I'm into findom because it feels one fucking hot way to see someone giving everything to you, leaning everything to let power escape and goving to you, but if you y'all don't start to talk and let yourself be vulnerable on the internet for once that won't happen. Will just be cash from a stranger, impersonal, cold, unfunny. If you got here let's change this, call me, tell me what tour favorite kink is and let's have a talk.

There is a strong feeling across multiple subreddits that I got into the last years that findom is decaying. As a relative unexperienced dom that only got in all this already in the content creation era, I would like to know, the problem is that y'all don't talk anymore?

I mean talking as in knowing the people that you want to interact with and, especially from the subs, letting them know what do YOU like. Findom is a genre inside BDSM, BDSM is an expression from our sex spectrum, we are not machines, we are human with feelings. Even in a dynamic that revolves power there are safe words, preferences, limits, compatibility.

Almost ever experience that I had over this few years, besides the trolls, are people expecting doms to be an "100% alpha", that don't care for the subs preferences or fellings, it's always:

- What do you like?

- I like what the dom likes. Just use me.

Like, C'MON. You can't have a minimal personality or desire? I get doing this later in the relationship, when you two already made a connection and you like this dynamic, but on the beginning? It would be better if you jack off to an AI that tells every single thing you would like to hear.

I could rob a bank, I could commit tax fraud, I couls start creating content, but that's not the point. I'm into findom because it feels one fucking hot way to see someone giving everything to you, leaning everything to let power escape and goving to you, but if you y'all don't start to talk and let yourself be vulnerable on the internet for once that won't happen. Will just be cash from a stranger, impersonal, cold, unfunny.

More than just demanding your money I like to also create a connection with the guys who serve me , and I find it easier to do that with older guys, thev're more likely to listen and talk and not just act like this is supposed to be a scripted thing, it's a consensual fetish that both need to be heard. If you're an older guy who likes to talk and wants to appreciate a nice younger boy hit me up

More than just demanding your money I like to also create a connection with the guys who serve me , and I find it easier to do that with older guys, they're more likely to listen and talk and not just act like this is supposed to be a scripted thing, it's a consensual fetish that both need to be heard. If you're an older guy who likes to talk and wants to appreciate a nice younger boy hit me up.