My wife (31F) and I (32M) have been discussing the possibility of sharing her, and what that might entail. We're settling in on the idea of her basically having a romantic long term boyfriend, and this just kind of blows my mind. The idea of her being with a man, both physically and emotionally, is weirdly and intensely erotic. Not just the obvious stuff, but all the little things too, like figuring out who she is going to spend her birthday with, or valentines day. Or how I'll feel about her meeting his parents or friends. Figuring out how much to tell them all. Like, would she be honest and tell them that she's married, or would she pretend to be unmarried and only seeing him?
Lately we've even been considering something more like long distance.... maybe where she stays with him for a bit? I also have work obligations which keep me away from home for a while, so we've also been discussing what options she might have for while I'm way. Our talks about how she wants that stomach-butterflies feeling again and excitement for the possibility of having that romantic/emotional connection has been really intense! And in the back of my mind, I can't help thinking that the biological impulse for sex is... well, to reproduce, so what does that mean if she wants to try this, and I want her to too? So much to think about!
I haven't told her this, but I keep having these thoughts about her finding this other guy who is a single father, and is looking to find love again. And then he finds my wife, and he realizes how amazing she is and how much he is missing in his own life. And now maybe he's found it?
Anyway, my wife and I have a really good relationship, and really open lines of communication, and neither of us is into the darker humiliation side of this. Yeah, there's a good chance there will be a pretty wild power dynamic here, but even if we try things out (like me being a driver for her date) we want it to be fun and not so demeaning. I think if we do it right, it could be amazing. I'd like to hear from women who want relationships like this or are in a relationship like this, or guys who would really appreciate the opportunity to insert themselves into our marriage like this. So if you like the idea, or want to talk about what might be possible, let me know.