u/Improvement-Awkward

My axolom jockey STP just arrived and I’ve been using it for 2 days, and I honestly have no idea how the hell this is supposed to be useful.

I bought it pretty much solely to use for peeing out and about in any place where there is not a private single stall restroom available. If there is a private restroom I’d just sit down, but in a stupid American restroom I feel way too uncomfortable sitting down where other people could potentially see or hear.

When I use it,I always end up pissing all over myself and having to walk around with soaking wet underwear. It fucking sucks. Not to mention it’s impossibly awkward and uncomfortable to pack with. I had an old regular packer and I put it in the fly of my boxer briefs to hold it in place and it worked perfectly. This one shifts around snd makes it IMPOSSIBLE to walk without it moving or rubbing against my skin and being incredibly uncomfortable. The funnel part collapses against my skin and makes the whole thing turn sideways. Not to mention the bulge looks awful but I don’t really care because I wear baggy pants anyway and I don’t really care about having a visible bulge. Whether I pack up or down, it wont stay in place or be comfortable. I’d like to find something for this, but I really don’t want to spend $80 on underwear. I also don’t want to use anything that I’ll need to wash as frequently as my underwear.

When I pee with it, I like to hold a bunch of toilet paper against my skin behind the balls in attempt to catch leaks or drips, but it still ends up where piss soaks through the toilet paper and leaks into my underwear. I have been able to get a constant stream going a few times, but when I stop peeing, the stream goes back down and spills out the back. The no spill lip does not help with this at all whatsoever. I’m then stuck with soaking wet underwear all day.

My pee shyness also does not help. I tried using the men’s restroom at work today (right now id stick to using stalls instead of urinals because of the leaking and the embarrassment). The bathroom was completely empty but I was literally standing there for 10 minutes and I could not start going, even though before I felt like I was going to pee my pants.

Also how are you supposed to clean it after peeing, especially when using a urinal where you have no toilet paper? I have no problem using stalls while standing to pee but I also don’t want to take my dick off to clean it with toilet paper, but if I don’t do that then it’ll be covered in piss and it’ll make my underwear even more wet. I just want to blend in and do what everyone else does, just pee, shake it off, and be done.

I’m so pissed. This is nothing but spending more and more money in hopes to alleviate your agonizing dysphoria but it ends up being even more miserable and inconvenient. I genuinely don’t know what to d anymore. Does anyone have any tips or advice on this