u/Lagrangiolio

We are making a weekly thread for men and women of the community to talk about what they've done in their household or home that is part of a patriarchal lifestyle.

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It can be anything from gardening to spanking, discipline to date nights

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As long as it fits within the theme of patriarchy and our community rules it's welcome.

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If you are a woman that hasn't had the kiss or connect of belonging to a man, share your vision to serve here

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If you are a man that hasn't found his woman share your vision of dominion and leading here

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This will be a recurring weekly thread. Add to it.

We are making a weekly thread for men and women of the community to talk about what they've done in their household or home that is part of a patriarchal lifestyle.

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It can be anything from gardening to spanking, discipline to date nights

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As long as it fits within the theme of patriarchy and our community rules it's welcome.

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If you are a woman that hasn't had the kiss or connect of belonging to a man, share your vision to serve here

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If you are a man that hasn't found his woman share your vision of dominion and leading here

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This will be a recurring weekly thread. Add to it.

And for husbands what are you having your wife do for your in the hot weather?

Acts of service and devotion are an important connective part of domestic patriarchy

The point of this community is a fun less intense way to onboard people onto domestic patriarchy at home if they've come from kink and BDSM communities. (Maybe they found porn first before faith, this happens a lot with gen Z)

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It's also a place for religious and trad inclined existing singles and couples or people that have grown up restricted or conflicted to find breathing space to connect to domestic patriarchy again without giving up their specific desires they want to have within that dynamic.

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There's some loose themes we don't allow if it falls too far away from the concept of domestic patriarchy.

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Some Examples are

If you're swingers and that's the focus of the post that will not be welcome here. If you're hotwifing or into cuckoldry then again that will not be welcome here.

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If you're polygynous or seeking to be or looking for that it is ofcourse welcome. If you're monogamous and want or have one good spouse that is ofcourse welcome here.

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I'm mentioning this explicitly because I see some people get into a bit of a tizzy (state of confusion) over why one person's concept of their wife as their slave or their wife as a tradwife maiden, they feel like there's some level of dehumanisation. Let me be clear if you're a man you love that which belongs to you.

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We don't have time for incels or people harassing women (previous mod post we called this behaviour out and ask that people show evidence in mod mail and we will ban anyone that's got a incel type of take on things where they fundamentally hate women and are harassing people. We are absolutely against that and will ban it instantly. it will not be woke scolding)

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Your wife can be your garment your slave your mate your complement. I think people who are really into theory crafting get hung up on words rather than the tone and intent

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We look at apparent intent (obviously we don't know people's inside thoughts). One person can describe their domestically patriarchal practises in one kind of way and another does another

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If he shows love and responsibility in his post then it doesn't matter that he calls her a slave

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If another person calls their wife a tradwife but the way they talk about it comes from some kind of hate then that is not welcome here.

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If someone wants their trad wife to be meek and wear summer dresses and run through fields of heather barefoot and pregnant that's fine and beautiful

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If someone else wants their wife to be naked and collared except when company is present and guests are visiting then that too is fine

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The domestic patriarchal element is referring to the rule of the father, or the husband. It's the role of authority, it's the order of things within the domestic household.

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It's deliberately flexible enough here to encompass a wide variety of what people consider patriarchal to them so long as it does not go so far away from the central themes.

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The reason for this is that we identified there was a mismatch between how many younger people got into patriarchal concepts by porn and bdsm versus people who grew up in religious or strict households and patriarchal concepts were the dominant or default (myself).

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By being an onboarding place people can learn and connect with other folks that feel the same are on the same journey learning to be useful learning to connect to this way of thinking being living domestically. It's a step stone community for onboarding and reinvigoration

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It's in part to address the exact issue where people get their idea of domestic patriarchy from porn and not real life. It does take quite a while for a young woman to go from loving control in porn and bdsm to actually wanting order and patriarchal dominance in their life. To go from theme to lifestyle

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By being a lighter place it's less off-putting and it's just more fun

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We don't want Purity spiralling. That doesn't mean everything is allowed, it's subjective and at the discretion of the moderators. But we want a community where people raised patriarchally and people curious about domestic patriarchy but coming from non standard routes can find a place to enjoy.

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I would much rather people do written posts than me posting inspo but gen Z is generally more visual so that's the allure to get people talking connecting reflecting working to make this possible in their own lives domestically.

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I want this to be a place where people find their solace find essays that inspire and they go ready themselves for domestic patiriarchy in their own lives with like minded people.

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There are things a woman who wants a domestic patriarchal relationship can do to improve herself. Take the spirit of it.

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Losing weight, pilates to improve flexibility, skin care, dressing for his eyes only, hair care and the like. She can even if he decides and she does too, to go down the plastic surgery route but the boons will not be passed onto the progeny.

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But beauty for some people is hard to attain. Some people are just more beautiful than others.

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That carries with it it's own challenges. A beautiful woman has to learn to have two personas. A rough curt dismissal with the men who are not her men in which case she's treated as mean off-putting and 'bitchy'; and a central submissive loving doe eyed deep fragile tenderness towards the man only man she belongs too. She has to navigate being too kind and pulling in so much advances it gives her man a headache and being mean just so it protects herself from these invitations upon her.

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A woman's conduct can be beautiful or make herself more beautiful, but raw beauty is a miracle doled out it's not acquired.

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If you can't be beautiful, be useful. Be compelling helpful undeniable. Work on your man's psychological needs ease him every day

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Sometimes women of beauty (and beauty is godly and to be praised) are not always correctly trained to serve their man or men the best. That is the area you can take strength in

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On a long enough timeline a man cares about what he is made to feel as he rules. Beauty is a face card to enter the kingdom but it's not a permanent residential visa to stay

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Work on the things to make yourself beautiful (this isn't an invitation to give up, do better) but if you can't be Beautiful be Useful

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We are making a weekly thread for men and women of the community to talk about what they've done in their household or home that is part of a patriarchal lifestyle.

​

It can be anything from gardening to spanking, discipline to date nights

​

As long as it fits within the theme of patriarchy and our community rules it's welcome.

​

If you are a woman that hasn't had the kiss or connect of belonging to a man, share your vision to serve here

​

If you are a man that hasn't found his woman share your vision of dominion and leading here

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This will be a recurring weekly thread. Add to it.