u/NChubbyalone

She keeps nudes on phone but hasn't wanted sex with me in years.

Messaging and slitting her married mom body to another

We have had a pretty sexless marriage for years. But would get random pics...

Found out she had messaged regularly a HS friend and now wonder if the pics on her phone where to him.

A few months ago she went to see him to catch up, his grown son was there she said. His wife was worki g out of town and she stayed late jnto night.

I sat home thinking she was fucking him or them. Would you?

Friday night, I was with a married friend. We’re both married, and the attraction between us finally boiled over into a long, heavy make-out session. It became much more physical, and she went down on me for quite a while. I eventually stopped her before I finished—not because I didn’t want her, but because the intensity of the moment had already pushed us much further than we had gone before.
At some point that night, she brought up wanting me to come to her house. Her husband was out of town, so we would have had the place to ourselves. The suggestion felt significant because this wouldn’t be a neutral location—it would be the home and furniture she shares with him.
The following day, he was back. She told me she was sitting beside him on their couch while replaying Friday night in her head. She said remembering what she had done with me was making her wet, but what really caught my attention was her saying that being turned on by me while he was sitting so close made it even hotter.
I kept thinking about that this morning.
When she suggested bringing me into her house, was she simply thinking about privacy and having more freedom together? Or was part of the appeal knowing we would be crossing that boundary in his space—with the possibility that he could come home or discover what had happened?
Her message from the couch makes me think the contrast itself turns her on: physically beside her husband while mentally and sexually focused on me. Maybe being with me in their home would make that contrast feel even more intense.
I’m curious whether anyone else has experienced this. Does the marital home become part of the fantasy because it feels more forbidden? And does fantasizing about the spouse being nearby suggest that the risk of discovery is part of the turn-on?

My wife (40) and I (45) have teens. Our sex life has been basically dead for a long time. She slowly lost intimate feelings for me over the years until sex started feeling like a chore for her.
She’s been close with the same married guy since high school. He’s a chef. His wife is a nurse and they work opposite shifts, so they’ve had their own stretches of distance too. About a year ago their texting changed. What used to be normal check-ins turned flirty. They even shared spicy pictures for a while. She told me later it was “just to help him” because his wife wasn’t there for him that way.
One afternoon he texted that he was in the area for training and asked if she wanted him to bring her lunch like they used to. I was at work. The house was empty. She said yes.
That’s when it first turned physical. It started with him touching her arm, then her knee, then her breast. They ended up in a heavy make-out session in our kitchen, still fully clothed, rubbing against each other. She said it felt comfortable, not like a chore the way it had with me. She felt guilty but not sick about it. It happened a few more times after that, always when I was gone.
I found some of the earlier messages. Then I found more recent ones.
She sent him close-up photos of her breasts with her shirt pulled up, and another of her in lace panties. In the same chat she wrote:
“My pussy is wet
I’ve been horny all day
I want you to lick it”
He replied “Oh my,” “Love these,” and “I would too if I got to have those all the time.”
She chose those photos specifically for him. This isn’t old stuff. It’s current.
I’m still not completely sure if they’ve gone all the way or if a lot of this is still heavy dirty talk and fantasy on his side. Part of me hopes I find out the full truth soon. When I saw the pictures and the messages I wasn’t able to control myself. The same mix of anger, hurt, and getting turned on hit me hard again.
Posting everything together because the earlier version got a lot of attention and people wanted the fuller picture.

A lot of people asked for an update, so here it is.
I found more messages and photos my wife has been sending her longtime high school friend. These are older, but more are clear.

She sent him close-up pictures of her breasts with her shirt pulled up, and another of her in lace panties. In the same chat she wrote:
“My pussy is wet
I’ve been horny all day
I want you to lick it”

He replied with “Oh my,” “Love these,” and “I would too if I got to have those all the time.”

She must have taken those photos specifically for him.

I’m still not completely sure if they’ve gone all the way or if a lot of this is still dirty talk and fantasy on his side. Part of me hopes I find out the full truth soon.
When I saw the pictures and the messages I wasn’t able to control myself. The mix of anger, hurt, and getting turned on hit me hard again. It’s confusing as hell, but it’s real.

Posting the screenshots because the first one got a lot of attention and people wanted to know what else was there.

My wife is 45 and I am 47. We have teens and basically no sex life for the last ten months. It was rare for years before that too.

She has been close with the same married guy since high school. They have been through a lot together. She works from home. I know of at least one time he came over, brought her lunch, and they were alone in the house.

Earlier in month he was in a accident. When she found out and called him, his wife made him hang up because his heart rate was climbing. Later she went to see him at the hospital. I found these text from that visit. That he touched her, I guess while his was wasn't look?

Was it an accident or something they have built up to?

She has also told me she sends him pics and reels of girls with big butts and small tits, the body type his wife has, because he likes that. My wife used to have bigger tits and ass but lost a lot of weight this past year. In the past she would send me random nudes, sometimes with stars covering nipples and crotch, but then not want sex afterward. I have started wondering if some of those were also going to him.

The private visits, the texting, the hospital room messages, and the body type content have me pretty convinced something physical is happening or has already happened.

What really gets me is that thinking about her being intimate with him is starting to turn me on.

So be honest. Based on the texts and the rest of it, what do you think they have actually done? What do you picture them doing when they are alone? How far do you think it has gone, and what else might be happening that I have not caught yet?

Screenshot attached.