43M, Seeking F25-F55, For long term relationship. Birmingham, AL area, but willing to travel.
I know this topic has been covered ad nauseum; and i have been someone who reads the posts and says to myself "the best way to find someone into this is to find someone who is open to kink, build a relationship, and expand and incorporate it from there." I say this to myself because I had that at one time. We built a relationship first, incorporated scat - we separated because she was ultimately not healthy for me mentally.
I understand ALL of the things when it comes to building the relationship on stronger foundations than this specific kink. So, with that said - what advice does anyone out there have for someone who is looking for someone who is into this? I know it is possible to bring it in organically, but I would also love some insight for looking in the right places? I am a successful adult, with awesome children, good-looking, fit, funny, am not obsessed with this fetish, but truly enjoy when it is incorporated into a larger healthy sex life. I would just genuinely like to meet someone who I don't have to worry if she will judge me for enjoying this. Even if I find someone who is kink friendly, I feel like there is so much generational programming that there is just no getting over the "ick" factor.
I certainly didn't want this to be a personal ad, but then again if there is anyone out there who is close-ish to me geographically, and would be interested - I have all the g-rated normal dating pics that I'd love to send. I promise not to overwhelm or dominate the conversations with talk about scat. Please don't hesitate to reach out - I am a pretty great guy, and honestly would probably use my exes as references. I would love some advice on where and how to meet people, or would love to hear your thoughts and experiences.