u/Ok_Flow_7865

Why I’m proud to love thicc folks, and dealing with societal fatphobia.

Hey, first time posting!

I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflecting lately and I just wanted to voice some thoughts I've had for a while. I'm wondering if other chasers feel the same way. I also hope my attraction to chubby guys/people isn't problematic. You'll have to let me know:

To give you some context, I’m a 28-year-old queer Black guy (I usually Top sexually for those wondering).

Because of genetics and playing sports back in high school, I’m on the athletic/slim side. But when it comes to who I'm attracted to, I. Love. Chubs. From smaller cubs to bigger, superchubs, I love my thiccies!

I’m mostly attracted to chubby gay men, but I'm occasionally also drawn to chubby cis and trans women, transmen, and nonbinary folks. For me, confidence is the ultimate turn-on. Seeing a confident chubbier person wear their weight proudly makes me so fucking happy. For example, I was obsessed when Lizzo first showed up and brought unapologetic body positivity into the popmusic world... shaking her ass regardless of what her haters said. It me so incredibly proud seeing such a vocal chubby bad bitch!

Because of my slim body type, people constantly assume I’m only interested in guys who look like me. It seems like a lot of queer guys end up "mirror dating" people who share their exact same physical features. I don't share that experience. I like dating guys with differing features.

My friends all know I’m only into thiccies lol. And my family has definitely put two and two together after meeting my romantic partners, since I've exclusively introduced them to chubby guys. I wasn't always this open about my attraction though.

Back in high school, I was pretty shy and closeted about being gay and my chubby preference. That changed my junior year when I started dating my first boyfriend—a nerdy, chubby, gaymer guy who was always hanging around my friend group. Eventually, our relationship got exposed to the whole school, which forcefully pushed me out of the closet.

While most people were supportive of me being gay, the fatphobia was unreal. I would hear backhanded things like, "We're happy for you, but... why him?" or "You could do so much better." It disgusted me how comfortable people were with being openly fatphobic just because he didn't fit the "skinny-normative" standard.

That experience changed something in me mentally. Since then, I’ve had absolutely zero tolerance for fatphobia. If someone makes a stupid, shallow assumption around me, I correct them on the spot. Whenever a friend or someone shows me a stereotypical gym bro thirst trap, I can't help but vocalize how extremely boring and uninterested I am.

Honestly, does anyone else get incredibly annoyed by how mainstream "conventionally attractive" standards are? Society has this automatic, toxic assumption that "skinnier = hotter", and the automatic chub-phobia out here is exhausting.

It’s honestly wild to me how rare it is to find other chasers, which is exactly why I’ve made it my mission to be loud and proud about my love for chubby folks. Everyone else is constantly hyping up gym bros and twinks, so I’m sure as hell not going to stay quiet about how gorgeous and sexy my thicc partners are. (Also, for the love of God, can brands start making actual sexy lingerie for bigger bodies instead of just twigs? 😮‍💨🙄) I even have a very-NSFW Twitter that I repost sexy chubs and share clips of me and my chubby fuckbuds on, just to share some much-needed representation and chub appreciation into the world.

I’m incredibly proud to be part of our niche community. Would love to hear how you guys navigate these same feelings.

Any chasers feel this way too?

And to my chubby kings, queens, and NB monarchs... is my chub appreciation coming off as fetishizing?