u/Ok_Rice_9194
🌺Aloha🌺
Feeling a little tropical 🐠 🍹 so thought I would start of with a tropical greeting....
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 4 days ago
▲ 0 r/PlymUK_NSFW
Why Some People Choose Not To Sleep With Married People
🌹Aurora rather than down voting my posts whenever you see likes, down voting from your multiple accounts why don't you look after your sick husband. Do you honestly think it bother me? My posts never get down voted and I've been told your behind it. Moreover, it hasn't stopped the supportive messages flooding into my inbox. Have a blessed day. I've had 41 message requests today alone and the day isn't even over. Two people have publicly defended you. Two people who are married and also cheating on their partners.
Two people isn't a lot of people when you've been in this world for years. If you don't like people liking posts about your behaviour then you shouldn't engage in unpleasant behaviour. You can't handle the heat. That's a you problem. Not a me problem . It's quite obvious what your doing but it doesn't bother me. If anything it shows me your bothered. In fact your behaviour has shown that me revealing your actions has gotten to you. I'm told your posts were completely down voted which is why you deleted them or made them private. Yet it's abit weird because they were then upvoted by same amount of votes (accounts) that have been downvoting these posts. Aurora are you upvoting your own posts 🤣 How many accounts does this women have? It's funny. Down voting my posts on her multiple secret accounts whilst upvoting her own posts on those same accounts 💀My posts are only private because I don't want you targeting posts related to a baby. No one cares if your down voting posts because your upset that not everyone is supporting you behind the scenes. You're known for this. Have a blessed day. Hopefully one as lovely as I'm having 🌹😘
These are not even 5% of the messages I've received. I've received a few hundred all supportive whether it be about her directly or the sub in general. It's just to help her pipe down from the delusion that everyone supports her. They don't. Maybe a few but behind her back most don't.
🌹The reason I have always stated no married men or people in relationships 🌹 I'm not looking for a relationship NSFW subs are not a place to look for relationships. I believe you should meet someone in the real world for that not someone online but that's my own views.
So my reason for this rule was and has always been because I was cheated on. It's not something I talk about publicly. Except now. Some might think "well you shouldn't be here then" but the reality is that logic is too reductionist. Not everyone is in a relationship.
When I was in the relationship I had no idea. When I found out I dumped him immediately. What I didn't prepare for was the long term consequences of what happened to me. I thought I would dump him and things would be fine. I didn't expect to suffer with nightmares. I didn't expect to have to walk out of shops whenever I smelt the same perfume he wore. I didn't expect to wake up daily feeling absolutely dreadful because of what happened. I didn't expect to think about what happened on a daily basis. I didn't expect to find out the man I loved and looked after and cared about was actually using an illness he has as a method of being able to cheat behind my back.
The illness he has I'm not going to mention at all. However, because everything was viewed through the lense of our relationship is fine he's just ill. I assumed that was exactly the case. I didn't expect to then realise that I had been gaslighted heavily by him. A lot happened to the point I questioned if he ever truly loved me. Many people abandoned him because of his illness and I didn't I stayed because I loved him. I went without intimacy there was so much I did. I never thought to get my needs met elsewhere and I could have because I've always been described as pretty and beautiful. I wanted to marry him I thought we were building a future together.
I have been forced to live with trauma I didn't want. Trauma that effects me daily. Trauma that robs me daily of a lot of joy. I don't look at him and think "I want to still be with you." I look at him and think "what did you do to me?" Why did you permanently alter my personality and how I approach love or what I think about it? I found out I was suffering with PTSD. I am diagnosed and I didn't know I was suffering from this. As someone who's been through that. I could never inflict it upon anyone else. I never cared about whether someone's partner knew they were here or not (most don't) I just couldn't and won't ever engage in an act (infidelity) knowing first hand the consequences of being on the receiving end.
Call me naive maybe. However, I have only had two relationships in my life. The first lasted four years and we remained friends for years. It was a lovely relationship but I moved 7 hours away for university (this is my second degree I'm studying). Distance made it end. The other one only lasted a few months and would have lasted longer if I'd never found out. It was the second that is the reason I will never sleep with a married person or someone in a relationship. I can't inflict upon someone else what was inflicted upon me.
🌹The importance of informed consent and it's never ok to trick someone into a sexual relationship🌹
If people want to cheat on their partners. I'll be blunt that's exactly what it's called. I'm not a bakery I don't sugar coat things. If people want to cheat they are autonomous beings it's their right. However, if someone explicitly states they will not consider married men or those in relationships. Please consider there might be a very significant reason behind that. Please also remember the person didn't consent to sleeping with you if the reality is that you lied about your situation to get into their knickers. When you lie about something someone is very strong on then you removed their ability to consent.
Therefore, the sex I had with someone I've been talking about here wasn't consentual. There's a few people who've referred to it as a particular things and I concur with their assessment. Consent isn't about pinning someone down, it's about preventing someone from making an informed decision. People who are heavily drunk can't consent, people who are under age can't consent, people who wouldn't sleep with you if they knew your circumstances and thus you tricked them into a sexual relationship are not people who consented to sleeping with you. Therefore, I would go as far as to say I do feel I was taken advantage of and that I factually was in a sexual relationship I didn't consent to.
There was a case of a women who lied about her age and another women who pretended to be a boy. They were both charged with a particular offense because their victims had sex with them under false pretences. You can read the article it'll be online. When you lie about your circumstances in order to get into someone's knickers, you have engaged in non consensual sex because I didn't consent to sleeping with a married man and anyone who remembers my posts on that sub will remember they all said "no married men or people in relationships." It wasn't about assuming he was married there's up to date hard evidence he is. He tricked someone into having sex with him and that's disgusting.
Some might not like plus sized, some might. Some might not prefer people of particular races, heights or beliefs. People have a right to make choices. I have the right not to have sex with someone who's married. No one deserves for their rights to be taken away from them. Being married is one thing. However, actively dumping someone into a sexual relationship is not ok. Actively tricking someone is not ok. The same person agreed to wear condoms with me and never did. That was another thing I was big on condoms due to risks and they never did wear them. I didn't consent to having sex with this person I was tricked into it. The betrayal from the lady already named comes from the fact she was comforting me and saying it wasn't ok and being a seemingly good, supportive and validating friend.
Whilst going behind my back and speaking to the person who had tricked me into a sexual relationship isn't them. Basically saying I was in the wrong to them and they were in the wrong to me. Pretending to be pally with both of us. If someone comes to you in confidence and you find out they were tricked into a sexual relationship. Who in their right mind seeks the person who tried the person into a non consenting sexual relationship and plays of both sides against each other? That's not a real friend but also an untrustworthy person. If people want to cheat behind my guest but do it with like minded people. It's never ok to trick anyone into sex.
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 14 days ago
▲ 1 r/PlymUK_NSFW
The person who my posts are about his identity is kept private just because he has a family the women who did this doesn't except for an ill husband she cheats on
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 14 days ago
▲ 0 r/PlymUK_NSFW
The Big Reveal The Person Who I've Been Speaking About This Entire Time About Be Careful Who You Trust On NSFW Subs
🌹Aurora rather than down voting my posts whenever you see likes, down voting from your multiple accounts why don't you look after your sick husband. Do you honestly think it bother me? My posts never get down voted and I've been told your behind it. Moreover, it hasn't stopped the supportive messages flooding into my inbox. Have a blessed day. I've had 41 message requests today alone and the day isn't even over. Two people have publicly defended you. Two people who are married and also cheating on their partners.
Two people isn't a lot of people when you've been in this world for years. If you don't like people liking posts about your behaviour then you shouldn't engage in unpleasant behaviour. You can't handle the heat. That's a you problem. Not a me problem . It's quite obvious what your doing but it doesn't bother me. If anything it shows me your bothered. In fact your behaviour has shown that me revealing your actions has gotten to you. I'm told your posts were completely down voted which is why you deleted them or made them private. Yet it's abit weird because they were then upvoted by same amount of votes (accounts) that have been downvoting these posts. Aurora are you upvoting your own posts 🤣 How many accounts does this women have? It's funny. Down voting my posts on her multiple secret accounts whilst upvoting her own posts on those same accounts 💀My posts are only private because I don't want you targeting posts related to a baby. No one cares if your down voting posts because your upset that not everyone is supporting you behind the scenes. You're known for this. Have a blessed day. Hopefully one as lovely as I'm having 🌹😘
Now I have permanently stepped away from the sub. Aurora can be named. Even after Aurora betrayed me she was still acting normal towards me. I had no idea what she'd done.
What happened was is I slept with a man who was dishonest about his circumstances. He knew I didn't sleep with married men or those in relationships. Therefore, he claimed to be single. He lied about other things. I thought he was lovely and told someone I knew I was seeing him. I didn't know they knew him and had bad experiences and had found out he wasn't an honest person. I am fair and I don't believe things at face value so I looked into what they'd said (that he was married and was lieing and had a history of lieing) and I found out they were telling the truth.
I confided in Aurora because I was shocked and disgusted that someone tricked me into a sexual relationship. She was comforting whilst betraying me behind my back and acting normal and trustworthy and genuine to my faves The only reason he hasn't been named is because he has a family unit. He's still out there cheating on his wife. That's why he's friends with Aurora because she cheats on her sick husband. I have evidence he's married amongst other things. It's strong evidence. However, because there's a family involved he has not been named. Many have said he's gotten of lightly and he has. Aurora hasn't because she doesn't have a family she just has a sick husband she cheats on even when he's in hospital.
Aurora has done similar things before to other people. She loves to know who your having sex with. A little odd but because she portrays herself as a friend you have no idea she's just trying to get involved with the person your with too. She's quite jealous of other women. We're young, beautiful and have sexy bodies. Were competion to her and she doesn't like that so she betrayed us in order to drive us away permanently.
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 14 days ago
▲ 4 r/PlymUK_NSFW
Receipts To Go With My Earlier Post About Being Careful Who You Trust On NSFW Subs I Can Confirm What I'm Talking About Happened In A Different Sub Not This One
The purple texts is what she was saying to me. The white text is what she was saying to the person who's actions she supposedly thought were wrong in her messages to me. I didn't blacken the ending of the sentence out he did. It was clearly not pleasant. Comforting me about the person she was secretly running to behind my back, sharing things with. The man who had hurt me. Playing both sides. That person actually screenshot some of what she said about me to him. So whilst she was throwing me under the bus he did the same to her. She was talking about both of us to each other.
The messages are me being comforted after finding out I had been in a sexual relationship (FWB) with a man who was and is living a double life. I'm comforted and validated and behind my back what was being said to her in confidence was being repeated to the person who'd hurt me. The screenshot of that is her starting her sentence with "Ha ha ha" and then him scribbled out in red. Why I was expecting any loyalty from a women who has affairs behind her husbands back and can't be loyal to someone she knows personally and got married to was a silly mistake on my part.
I think it's because I'm young and would go to her for advice about a lot of things. He deleted some of the things hence I don't have all screenshots but she was telling him a lot of things and being very two faced stirring the pot. Whilst being comforting and kind to my face. The post isn't about saying "they did this" it's about bringing awareness to what can happen when you trust people you've never met in person. She is well known in this sub anyway. Salt and sugar look the same you can't always tell the difference. She expected his trust whilst he was sending me the screenshots of what she'd been saying about me. When someone can kick another person when there already down it speaks volumes especially when it's an older women to a much younger women who's newer to this world I haven't even been here a year.
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 14 days ago
▲ 1 r/PlymUK_NSFW
Be Careful Who You Trust on NSFW Subs Always Remain Cautious And Keep Yourself Safe Because Not Everyone Is Who They Seem
I don't care if this message gets back to the said women involved. What I will say is I have decided to permanently step away from the NSFW world and this sub. I'm in my early 20s so young enough to not really be that bothered. I was only ever here until I finished university anyway. I wanted to meet someone in the real world eventually but at the moment I'm not ready for that and if rather focus on my studies.
I'm not going to name anyone but she's well known here. I don't doubt things will get back to her. As much as her and her little friend have screenshot things I have screenshot a lot of things myself. Although, why things have been screenshot I'm not entirely sure because my real identity isn't known by either of them and I don't live in Torquay. I travel there for meets. I never do meets or accept meets where I'm from because it's a small world and I don't want to ever walk on the street and ever been recognised by anyone. So I find it much easier to travel to Torquay but I don't actually live here.
Essentially what's happened is I've known this women since I joined last year around November time and she was very welcoming and nice and messaged me. So I would often confide in her about a lot of things. It was usually about meets. For example, how to ensure a meet is safe. Amongst other things. I also swapped pictures (face only) with her because I felt there was a level of trust and told her some things. I would always go to her for advice. Recently I got into a FWB situation with a guy who's time I really enjoyed. Unfortunately I ended up finding out he was married and had an additional what rhymes with mild but has a "ch" Infront of it (was living a double life). I was upset because I don't like the idea of sleeping with married people and I felt deceived into the sexual relationship with him.
However, I confided in this women and little did I know she was telling him absolutely everything behind my back. Jed sent me some screenshots of what she'd sent to him. I got in touch with him today to see if there was an explanation since things had settled and I saw he had a different account I wanted to be mature about things and also see why he wasn't honest with me I wanted to clear the air but didn't want to meet because he's married despite what he claims on the subs. It was then that I found out that everything is been saying to her had been unbeknownst to me shared with him. All the while she was comforting me telling me his behaviour was wrong, he was deceptive amongst other things.
The reason I'm creating this post isn't to stir up drama (I haven't mentioned either of them). It's just to make you aware that you don't know the real backgrounds of people you meet online especially on NSFW subs. You don't know their name, age (I keep both of those details anonymous). You don't know whatever they've said to you is true. Also anyone can appear to be quite trustworthy on NSFW subs especially other women. However, don't assume that just because someone is nice to you and always seems there when you need advice that, that is exactly who they are behind your back. To be honest it was my own fault. When you're a married women and your having an affair behind your husbands back and that's supposed to be a person you vowed to love for the rest of your life, you then it's silly why I would have trusted the same women to display a quality she doesn't possess in her marriage.
My point is if you want to meet people do meet them. However, don't give your real name out, don't give your real age out (a few years above or below is fine). Don't give your contact details out despite how much you think you trust the person (I never have, I would use discord for calls or texts or Reddit for texts). It's more about being safe online. I'm not particularly concerned because my real details are completely anonymous. I think the university I go to is known but there are thousands of students who go there and I've never mentioned the real degree I'm on I've always stated an alternative one. My name is also not known and neither is my age. The moral is just don't talk to people about private things because despite how trusting they seem they might be comforting you to your face and feeding everything to the person in question behind your back. Playing both people. It's a shame he can't see that but I always say "if they do it with you they'll do it to you." This post is just about keeping yourselves safe online and not treating whatever connection you have here as friends and not trusting people with your personal information. Thankfully I haven't done the latter but I did the first.
The women involved 👇🏻
https://www.reddit.com/r/PlymUK_NSFW/comments/1ue0yot/the_person_who_my_posts_are_about_his_identity_is/
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 14 days ago
The Receipts To Go With The Post That I Made About Being Careful Who You Trust On NSFW Subs Because Not Everyone Is As Trustworthy Or As Safe As They Seem
The messages are me being comforted after finding out I had been in a sexual relationship (FWB) with a man who was and is living a double life. I'm comforted and validated and behind my back what was being said to her in confidence was being repeated to the person who'd hurt me. The screenshot of that is her starting her sentence with "Ha ha ha" and then him scribbled out in red. Why I was expecting any loyalty from a women who has affairs behind her husbands back and can't be loyal to someone she knows personally and got married to was a silly mistake on my part.
I think it's because I'm young and would go to her for advice about a lot of things. He deleted some of the things hence I don't have all screenshots but she was telling him a lot of things and being very two faced stirring the pot. Whilst being comforting and kind to my face. The post isn't about saying "they did this" it's about bringing awareness to what can happen when you trust people you've never met in person. She is well known in this sub anyway. Salt and sugar look the same you can't always tell the difference. She expected his trust whilst he was sending me the screenshots of what she'd been saying about me. When someone can kick another person when there already down it speaks volumes especially when it's an older women to a much younger women who's newer to this world I haven't even been here a year.
The original post is linked below 👇🏻 These receipts belong to that post
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
▲ 5 r/bristolNSFW2
The Receipts To Go With The Post That I Made About Being Careful Who You Trust On NSFW Subs Because Not Everyone Is As Trustworthy Or As Safe As They Seem
The messages are me being comforted after finding out I had been in a sexual relationship (FWB) with a man who was and is living a double life. I'm comforted and validated and behind my back what was being said to her in confidence was being repeated to the person who'd hurt me. The screenshot of that is her starting her sentence with "Ha ha ha" and then him scribbled out in red. Why I was expecting any loyalty from a women who has affairs behind her husbands back and can't be loyal to someone she knows personally and got married to was a silly mistake on my part.
I think it's because I'm young and would go to her for advice about a lot of things. He deleted some of the things hence I don't have all screenshots but she was telling him a lot of things and being very two faced stirring the pot. Whilst being comforting and kind to my face. The post isn't about saying "they did this" it's about bringing awareness to what can happen when you trust people you've never met in person. She is well known in this sub anyway. Salt and sugar look the same you can't always tell the difference. She expected his trust whilst he was sending me the screenshots of what she'd been saying about me. When someone can kick another person when there already down it speaks volumes especially when it's an older women to a much younger women who's newer to this world I haven't even been here a year.
The original post
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
The Receipts To Go With The Post That I Made About Being Careful Who You Trust On NSFW Subs Because Not Everyone Is As Trustworthy Or As Safe As They Seem
These are the receipts to go with the post below about being careful because not everyone is safe or trustworthy online especially on NSFW subs.
The messages are me being comforted after finding out I had been in a sexual relationship (FWB) with a man who was and is living a double life. I'm comforted and validated and behind my back what was being said to her in confidence was being repeated to the person who'd hurt me. The screenshot of that is her starting her sentence with "Ha ha ha" and then him scribbled out in red. Why I was expecting any loyalty from a women who has affairs behind her husbands back and can't be loyal to someone she knows personally and got married to was a silly mistake on my part.
I think it's because I'm young and would go to her for advice about a lot of things. He deleted some of the things hence I don't have all screenshots but she was telling him a lot of things and being very two faced stirring the pot. Whilst being comforting and kind to my face. The post isn't about saying "they did this" it's about bringing awareness to what can happen when you trust people you've never met in person. She is well known in this sub anyway. Salt and sugar look the same you can't always tell the difference. She expected his trust whilst he was sending me the screenshots of what she'd been saying about me. When someone can kick another person when there already down it speaks volumes especially when it's an older women to a much younger women who's newer to this world I haven't even been here a year.
the original post is linked below these are the receipts to go with them 👇🏻
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
Follow On From The Post I Created About Being Careful In NSFW Subs Because Not Everyone Is Trustworthy Or Safe
These are the receipts to go with the post below about being careful because not everyone is safe or trustworthy online especially on NSFW subs.
The messages are me being comforted after finding out I had been in a sexual relationship (FWB) with a man who was and is living a double life. I'm comforted and validated and behind my back what was being said to her in confidence was being repeated to the person who'd hurt me. The screenshot of that is her starting her sentence with "Ha ha ha" and then him scribbled out in red. Why I was expecting any loyalty from a women who has affairs behind her husbands back and can't be loyal to someone she knows personally and got married to was a silly mistake on my part.
I think it's because I'm young and would go to her for advice about a lot of things. He deleted some of the things hence I don't have all screenshots but she was telling him a lot of things and being very two faced stirring the pot. Whilst being comforting and kind to my face. The post isn't about saying "they did this" it's about bringing awareness to what can happen when you trust people you've never met in person. She is well known in this sub anyway. Salt and sugar look the same you can't always tell the difference. She expected his trust whilst he was sending me the screenshots of what she'd been saying about me. When someone can kick another person when there already down it speaks volumes especially when it's an older women to a much younger women who's newer to this world I haven't even been here a year.
Below is the post these receipts go with
https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatSwapMeetDevonUK/comments/1ucqecd/just_be_careful_who_you_trust_here/
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
Please Be Careful Of These NSFW Subs Not Everyone Is As Trustworthy Or As Safe As They Seem
(I posted this in a different group and it's not applicable to any female in this sub I think the man might be in this sub but I'm not going to name him I just think it's really important for people to be careful online and not view these subs as social friendships or people you can necessarily trust It's also not something that has happened in this sub I just think it's good to share so people know to be more careful)
I don't care if this message gets back to the said women involved. What I will say is I have decided to permanently step away from the NSFW world and this sub. I'm in my early 20s so young enough to not really be that bothered. I was only ever here until I finished university anyway. I wanted to meet someone in the real world eventually but at the moment I'm not ready for that and if rather focus on my studies.
I'm not going to name anyone but she's well known here. I don't doubt things will get back to her. As much as her and her little friend have screenshot things I have screenshot a lot of things myself. Although, why things have been screenshot I'm not entirely sure because my real identity isn't known by either of them and I don't live in Torquay. I travel there for meets. I never do meets or accept meets where I'm from because it's a small world and I don't want to ever walk on the street and ever been recognised by anyone. So I find it much easier to travel to Torquay but I don't actually live here.
Essentially what's happened is I've known this women since I joined last year around November time and she was very welcoming and nice and messaged me. So I would often confide in her about a lot of things. It was usually about meets. For example, how to ensure a meet is safe. Amongst other things. I also swapped pictures (face only) with her because I felt there was a level of trust and told her some things. I would always go to her for advice. Recently I got into a FWB situation with a guy who's time I really enjoyed. Unfortunately I ended up finding out he was married and had an additional child (was living a double life). I was upset because I don't like the idea of sleeping with married people and I felt deceived into the sexual relationship with him.
However, I confided in this women and little did I know she was telling him absolutely everything behind my back. Jed sent me some screenshots of what she'd sent to him. I got in touch with him today to see if there was an explanation since things had settled and I saw he had a different account I wanted to be mature about things and also see why he wasn't honest with me I wanted to clear the air but didn't want to meet because he's married despite what he claims on the subs. It was then that I found out that everything is been saying to her had been unbeknownst to me shared with him. All the while she was comforting me telling me his behaviour was wrong, he was deceptive amongst other things.
The reason I'm creating this post isn't to stir up drama (I haven't mentioned either of them). It's just to make you aware that you don't know the real backgrounds of people you meet online especially on NSFW subs. You don't know their name, age (I keep both of those details anonymous). You don't know whatever they've said to you is true. Also anyone can appear to be quite trustworthy on NSFW subs especially other women. However, don't assume that just because someone is nice to you and always seems there when you need advice that, that is exactly who they are behind your back. To be honest it was my own fault. When you're a married women and your having an affair behind your husbands back and that's supposed to be a person you vowed to love for the rest of your life, you then it's silly why I would have trusted the same women to display a quality she doesn't possess in her marriage.
My point is if you want to meet people do meet them. However, don't give your real name out, don't give your real age out (a few years above or below is fine). Don't give your contact details out despite how much you think you trust the person (I never have, I would use discord for calls or texts or Reddit for texts). It's more about being safe online. I'm not particularly concerned because my real details are completely anonymous. I think the university I go to is known but there are thousands of students who go there and I've never mentioned the real degree I'm on I've always stated an alternative one. My name is also not known and neither is my age. The moral is just don't talk to people about private things because despite how trusting they seem they might be comforting you to your face and feeding everything to the person in question behind your back. Playing both people. It's a shame he can't see that but I always say "if they do it with you they'll do it to you." This post is just about keeping yourselves safe online and not treating whatever connection you have here as friends and not trusting people with your personal information. Thankfully I haven't done the latter but I did the first.
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
▲ 13 r/bristolNSFW2
Please Be Careful On These NSFW Subs Not Everyone Is As Safe Or As Trustworthy As They Seem
(I posted this in a different group and it's not applicable to any female in this sub I think the man might be in this sub but I'm not going to name him I just think it's really important for people to be careful online and not view these subs as social friendships or people you can necessarily trust It's also not something that has happened in this sub I just think it's good to share so people know to be more careful)
I don't care if this message gets back to the said women involved. What I will say is I have decided to permanently step away from the NSFW world and this sub. I'm in my early 20s so young enough to not really be that bothered. I was only ever here until I finished university anyway. I wanted to meet someone in the real world eventually but at the moment I'm not ready for that and if rather focus on my studies.
I'm not going to name anyone but she's well known here. I don't doubt things will get back to her. As much as her and her little friend have screenshot things I have screenshot a lot of things myself. Although, why things have been screenshot I'm not entirely sure because my real identity isn't known by either of them and I don't live in Torquay. I travel there for meets. I never do meets or accept meets where I'm from because it's a small world and I don't want to ever walk on the street and ever been recognised by anyone. So I find it much easier to travel to Torquay but I don't actually live here.
Essentially what's happened is I've known this women since I joined last year around November time and she was very welcoming and nice and messaged me. So I would often confide in her about a lot of things. It was usually about meets. For example, how to ensure a meet is safe. Amongst other things. I also swapped pictures (face only) with her because I felt there was a level of trust and told her some things. I would always go to her for advice. Recently I got into a FWB situation with a guy who's time I really enjoyed. Unfortunately I ended up finding out he was married and had an additional child (was living a double life). I was upset because I don't like the idea of sleeping with married people and I felt deceived into the sexual relationship with him.
However, I confided in this women and little did I know she was telling him absolutely everything behind my back. Jed sent me some screenshots of what she'd sent to him. I got in touch with him today to see if there was an explanation since things had settled and I saw he had a different account I wanted to be mature about things and also see why he wasn't honest with me I wanted to clear the air but didn't want to meet because he's married despite what he claims on the subs. It was then that I found out that everything is been saying to her had been unbeknownst to me shared with him. All the while she was comforting me telling me his behaviour was wrong, he was deceptive amongst other things.
The reason I'm creating this post isn't to stir up drama (I haven't mentioned either of them). It's just to make you aware that you don't know the real backgrounds of people you meet online especially on NSFW subs. You don't know their name, age (I keep both of those details anonymous). You don't know whatever they've said to you is true. Also anyone can appear to be quite trustworthy on NSFW subs especially other women. However, don't assume that just because someone is nice to you and always seems there when you need advice that, that is exactly who they are behind your back. To be honest it was my own fault. When you're a married women and your having an affair behind your husbands back and that's supposed to be a person you vowed to love for the rest of your life, you then it's silly why I would have trusted the same women to display a quality she doesn't possess in her marriage.
My point is if you want to meet people do meet them. However, don't give your real name out, don't give your real age out (a few years above or below is fine). Don't give your contact details out despite how much you think you trust the person (I never have, I would use discord for calls or texts or Reddit for texts). It's more about being safe online. I'm not particularly concerned because my real details are completely anonymous. I think the university I go to is known but there are thousands of students who go there and I've never mentioned the real degree I'm on I've always stated an alternative one. My name is also not known and neither is my age. The moral is just don't talk to people about private things because despite how trusting they seem they might be comforting you to your face and feeding everything to the person in question behind your back. Playing both people. It's a shame he can't see that but I always say "if they do it with you they'll do it to you." This post is just about keeping yourselves safe online and not treating whatever connection you have here as friends and not trusting people with your personal information. Thankfully I haven't done the latter but I did the first.
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
Please Be Careful In These NSFW Subs Not Everyone Is As Honest Or As Safe As They Seem
(I posted this in a different group and it's not applicable to any female in this sub I think the man might be in this sub but I'm not going to name him I just think it's really important for people to be careful online and not view these subs as social friendships or people you can necessarily trust It's also not something that has happened in this sub I just think it's good to share so people know to be more careful)
I don't care if this message gets back to the said women involved. What I will say is I have decided to permanently step away from the NSFW world and this sub. I'm in my early 20s so young enough to not really be that bothered. I was only ever here until I finished university anyway. I wanted to meet someone in the real world eventually but at the moment I'm not ready for that and if rather focus on my studies.
I'm not going to name anyone but she's well known here. I don't doubt things will get back to her. As much as her and her little friend have screenshot things I have screenshot a lot of things myself. Although, why things have been screenshot I'm not entirely sure because my real identity isn't known by either of them and I don't live in Torquay. I travel there for meets. I never do meets or accept meets where I'm from because it's a small world and I don't want to ever walk on the street and ever been recognised by anyone. So I find it much easier to travel to Torquay but I don't actually live here.
Essentially what's happened is I've known this women since I joined last year around November time and she was very welcoming and nice and messaged me. So I would often confide in her about a lot of things. It was usually about meets. For example, how to ensure a meet is safe. Amongst other things. I also swapped pictures (face only) with her because I felt there was a level of trust and told her some things. I would always go to her for advice. Recently I got into a FWB situation with a guy who's time I really enjoyed. Unfortunately I ended up finding out he was married and had an additional child (was living a double life). I was upset because I don't like the idea of sleeping with married people and I felt deceived into the sexual relationship with him.
However, I confided in this women and little did I know she was telling him absolutely everything behind my back. Jed sent me some screenshots of what she'd sent to him. I got in touch with him today to see if there was an explanation since things had settled and I saw he had a different account I wanted to be mature about things and also see why he wasn't honest with me I wanted to clear the air but didn't want to meet because he's married despite what he claims on the subs. It was then that I found out that everything is been saying to her had been unbeknownst to me shared with him. All the while she was comforting me telling me his behaviour was wrong, he was deceptive amongst other things.
The reason I'm creating this post isn't to stir up drama (I haven't mentioned either of them). It's just to make you aware that you don't know the real backgrounds of people you meet online especially on NSFW subs. You don't know their name, age (I keep both of those details anonymous). You don't know whatever they've said to you is true. Also anyone can appear to be quite trustworthy on NSFW subs especially other women. However, don't assume that just because someone is nice to you and always seems there when you need advice that, that is exactly who they are behind your back. To be honest it was my own fault. When you're a married women and your having an affair behind your husbands back and that's supposed to be a person you vowed to love for the rest of your life, you then it's silly why I would have trusted the same women to display a quality she doesn't possess in her marriage.
My point is if you want to meet people do meet them. However, don't give your real name out, don't give your real age out (a few years above or below is fine). Don't give your contact details out despite how much you think you trust the person (I never have, I would use discord for calls or texts or Reddit for texts). It's more about being safe online. I'm not particularly concerned because my real details are completely anonymous. I think the university I go to is known but there are thousands of students who go there and I've never mentioned the real degree I'm on I've always stated an alternative one. My name is also not known and neither is my age. The moral is just don't talk to people about private things because despite how trusting they seem they might be comforting you to your face and feeding everything to the person in question behind your back. Playing both people. It's a shame he can't see that but I always say "if they do it with you they'll do it to you." This post is just about keeping yourselves safe online and not treating whatever connection you have here as friends and not trusting people with your personal information. Thankfully I haven't done the latter but I did the first.
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
Just Be Careful Who You Trust Here
I don't care if this message gets back to the said women involved. What I will say is I have decided to permanently step away from the NSFW world and this sub. I'm in my early 20s so young enough to not really be that bothered. I was only ever here until I finished university anyway. I wanted to meet someone in the real world eventually but at the moment I'm not ready for that and if rather focus on my studies.
I'm not going to name anyone but she's well known here. I don't doubt things will get back to her. As much as her and her little friend have screenshot things I have screenshot a lot of things myself. Although, why things have been screenshot I'm not entirely sure because my real identity isn't known by either of them and I don't live in Torquay. I travel there for meets. I never do meets or accept meets where I'm from because it's a small world and I don't want to ever walk on the street and ever been recognised by anyone. So I find it much easier to travel to Torquay but I don't actually live here.
Essentially what's happened is I've known this women since I joined last year around November time and she was very welcoming and nice and messaged me. So I would often confide in her about a lot of things. It was usually about meets. For example, how to ensure a meet is safe. Amongst other things. I also swapped pictures (face only) with her because I felt there was a level of trust and told her some things. I would always go to her for advice. Recently I got into a FWB situation with a guy who's time I really enjoyed. Unfortunately I ended up finding out he was married and had an additional child (was living a double life). I was upset because I don't like the idea of sleeping with married people and I felt deceived into the sexual relationship with him.
However, I confided in this women and little did I know she was telling him absolutely everything behind my back. Jed sent me some screenshots of what she'd sent to him. I got in touch with him today to see if there was an explanation since things had settled and I saw he had a different account I wanted to be mature about things and also see why he wasn't honest with me I wanted to clear the air but didn't want to meet because he's married despite what he claims on the subs. It was then that I found out that everything is been saying to her had been unbeknownst to me shared with him. All the while she was comforting me telling me his behaviour was wrong, he was deceptive amongst other things.
The reason I'm creating this post isn't to stir up drama (I haven't mentioned either of them). It's just to make you aware that you don't know the real backgrounds of people you meet online especially on NSFW subs. You don't know their name, age (I keep both of those details anonymous). You don't know whatever they've said to you is true. Also anyone can appear to be quite trustworthy on NSFW subs especially other women. However, don't assume that just because someone is nice to you and always seems there when you need advice that, that is exactly who they are behind your back. To be honest it was my own fault. When you're a married women and your having an affair behind your husbands back and that's supposed to be a person you vowed to love for the rest of your life, you then it's silly why I would have trusted the same women to display a quality she doesn't possess in her marriage.
My point is if you want to meet people do meet them. However, don't give your real name out, don't give your real age out (a few years above or below is fine). Don't give your contact details out despite how much you think you trust the person (I never have, I would use discord for calls or texts or Reddit for texts). It's more about being safe online. I'm not particularly concerned because my real details are completely anonymous. I think the university I go to is known but there are thousands of students who go there and I've never mentioned the real degree I'm on I've always stated an alternative one. My name is also not known and neither is my age. The moral is just don't talk to people about private things because despite how trusting they seem they might be comforting you to your face and feeding everything to the person in question behind your back. Playing both people. It's a shame he can't see that but I always say "if they do it with you they'll do it to you." This post is just about keeping yourselves safe online and not treating whatever connection you have here as friends and not trusting people with your personal information. Thankfully I haven't done the latter but I did the first.
The receipts are linked below 👇🏻 Showing her comforting me and validating me and then behind my back contacting the person who I told her had hurt me and messaging what I was saying. The "Ha ha ha" message is her and the response blanked out in red is him. I won't bait out identities. I just want to show a real life example of where most of us can go wrong (trusting people online). Alot of people here are vulnerable for many reasons so it's to highlight it for them too.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatSwapMeetDevonUK/comments/1uctdrq/follow_on_from_the_post_i_created_about_being/
u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 15 days ago
All Questions Answered In Relation To My "FWB Torquay Area Post"
This is quite long but it answers whatever question your interested in being answered in relation to my post in the link below. I will also put this post link on that post.
The post is linked below because I often get asked questions in the post so this post answers all of those questions.
https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatSwapMeetDevonUK/s/BtfQCf22J9
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About Me:
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I'm a university student who is 25 I'm doing my second degree. I will only be on this sub until 2028 when my degree finishes. That's because by that time I will be looking for a relationship and that is something I will only be looking for in the real world, through work, education or religious establishments or through hobbies. It won't be something I seek out online. At the moment I'm only here because I have needs and I'm happy to meet someone else's needs too. I don't want to get into a relationship to have those needs met because I'm not ready for a relationship given the things that happened in a relationship I ended a few months ago which did originated from an NSFW sub. I'm very wary of anyone wanting a relationship with me from NSFW subs or even online and it's not something I'll entertain. I'm 🇹🇷🇵🇰🇮🇪. However, I state I'm the first two and identify as those because I'm fully Asian passing rather than passing as dual heritage.
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The Torquay Area Only
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I struggle with being on public transport for a long period of time because I get motion sickness. I also struggle with going to new places it makes me quite anxious hence the reason I've stated an area I'm familiar with.
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The Hotel Only
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This is purely because as a women I think safety is very important and the reality is anyone can present themselves differently online. As a female it's not wise to let someone you don't know come to your home because you don't know their background or that they are who they say they are and if it goes wrong then that person has your address which would place you in a vulnerable position.
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The M30-M50
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That's purely based on the fact I find people in this age category sexually attractive. Of course I'm not going to find every single person in this category attractive because looks and personality also factor into what makes someone attractive.
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The No Children
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This is only applicable to people who don't have children who are under 18. This is not applicable to people who have children who are adults. The reason for this rule is because I have spoken to people in the past (couple of months ago) who did have children and I found that they never had any real time to meet or chat. Children require a lot of attention and time which makes someone quite limited with theirs. In September I will be going back to university therefore if I entertain someone who is already not flexible due to caring commitments it just won't work out. Even if they say "I only have them on the weekends" when I'm back at university the weekends might be the only available days I have for a meet.
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The not being married and not being in a relationship
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Now I am not naive. I am very aware there are and will be people who claim that they're single when they're in a relationship or married in order to bypass my rules. I cannot stop someone trying to deceive me in order to gain something. However, what I can help is blocking and never seeing that person again if I ever find out. It's a huge risk to take because you risk bonding with me and getting attached in some way knowing that if I ever find out everything will end immediately. However, my reason for this rule is because I was a victim of infidelity in one relationship.
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I think some people think it's easy to comitt infidelity and it is. However, people often do things expecting not to be caught and not thinking about the consequences. As a female who suffers with PTSD like symptoms (flashbacks, nightmares, low mood, rumination, daily intrusive thoughts) as a result of someone doing this to me. I would never be willing to partake in any activity that risked harming another humanbeing because I'm aware that the after effects and trauma can be long lasting. It's like being robbed of your life in a way. Ever since what happened to me I am unable to really enjoy my life because most days I have either suffered a nightmare, reminder or flashback. Infidelity might seem like a small thing but when your on the receiving end and you suffer with PTSD like symptoms because of everything else that came with it (the gaslighting, the deception, the future faking) it becomes a highly traumatic experience. Therefore, I'm not willing to inflict that upon someone else. I can't help if people lie to me but they know the score if I ever find out.
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The connection
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I don't want to feel like everything is solely about sex. I want to feel connected to someone. If I was all about sex and only wanted that then I could do a certain line of work and actually get paid for my time/company. I'm not into hookups because if I was I wouldn't be creating any posts and waiting. I think hookups feel very transactional and I'd like to feel there is a connection with the person I'm being intimate with.
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I think I've covered everything because I know people ask questions.
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u/Ok_Rice_9194 — 16 days ago