Do some of you guys have an Asian fetish? I'm Asian but I've never had a relationship with an Asian guy. In adulthood I've only ever been with white guys. I don't like saying I prefer them as it could be perceived in the wrong way. However, whenever I meet a person from the sub. It's their first time with an Asian lady.
Anyone else on occasions looked at someone's profile only to realise all of their comments on this sub have been solely directed at you? No one else but you? I have had it a few times where I've clicked on someone's profile and I've noticed all of their comments on this sub are on my posts only. Not saying anything is wrong with it. Just curious really. There's so many beautiful and lovely people here I sometimes think "why me?" Given that it's happened a few times.
Hypothetically if I invited you into my bedroom would you be overwhelmed by the pink? My bedroom is a pink rose theme. I have four vases filled with pink roses, rose plates matching to the teacups on my chandelier on my bedroom wall. Would you feel like "I'm blinded by the pink?"
I'm only asking because I may start hosting in a few months so I thought I'd ask what people thought. ATM I'm unable to host so I rely on people booking hotels.
I am contacted quite a lot. I notice a lot of the people contacting me have blank profiles, some people's profiles are only a day old or a week old.
I won't answer profiles that are blank or very new anymore. This is because I am unable to get a feel for who someone is, you can learn a lot through someone's profile, how they interact with others and even down to the views they have based on the groups they follow.
I had one guy and everything was going very well until I looked at his profile and saw he followed "women inferiority subreddit" and "female and male mysogynist subreddit" groups. People can have their own views but as a female if I'm viewed as inferior it makes you question through looking at the content of these groups what would have happened during a meetup because these people don't believe in equal rights and believe they're above females. I had another guy who seemed like a real gentleman and I found out through his posts he was calling women derogatory names and encouraging one to harm herself. The point is if someone has no profile information I'm not going to take the risk of finding out what they're like in person when I could find out beforehand and their profile is blank which would prevent me from doing that then I pass and skip to the next person.
New profiles I don't answer because they have no reputation and I'm suspicious if they've been set up by people I've rejected or not responded to in order to try their luck with me. I rarely block and when I do I know there was a really good reason I did so. Therefore, I don't like the idea of people trying to bypass that. Face pics if I request one and it's not sent I also skip and pass. My logic is we'll see each other in person so I don't understand the issue with sending a picture to see if there's any sexual attraction. I also offer to send one too. Why would I want to pay my travel to meet someone only to realise actually I can't imagine doing anything with them because I have zero sexual attraction to them? Or the other way around it wouldn't be fair to that person.
Is it boobs? Bum? Legs? Full body?
When you message a woman are you looking for a chat? Company? A sexual meet up?
What's your idea of a perfect meeting?
Have you had dates? Did they work out?
If yes? Why? If not why?
What boundaries or rules do you have in place for meeting people?
Out of curiosity how did you find this sub and why are you here?
I found this sub by accident. I was replying to someone's comment on the Exeter sub about the best places to eat at in Exeter and I clicked on their profile and saw the name of the sub. I was very naive and thought "chatswapmeet" was about chatting, swapping numbers and meeting up as friends. I hadn't been in Devon for too long and only had a few friends at that point so I thought I'd expand my horizon not being aware until I clicked on the sub what it was about.
Edit: Just seen typo in the title. I meant "men."
"Hey dear" the only thing that's missing to complete the sentence is "help is on the way". Jokes aside some people are so low effort when messaging in an already competitive environment where women significantly outweigh men. I don't even respond.
The other day I had a guy in my DMs saying "can we have a meet up" didn't even introduce himself. That was his opening line. Didn't even mention if he'd read my rules. Some people really need to do better. How am I supposed to know if I'm going to have a meet up if I haven't spoken to see if there's some chemistry? If I don't even know what you look like because you haven't sent me a picture or whether you know if I'm your cup of tea because you haven't even seen my picture? It does make me scratch my head sometimes. I've already got a few FWB always open for more connections with the right people until I eventually leave in two years. I'm very selective.
It's not been the first time I've had people from different communities encourage me to join their NSFW communities. Firstly, I don't even live in the areas they want me to join. Secondly it just makes me feel used. For example because I get so much attention/popularity here it makes me feel like I'm being used as a means to boost their community.
The person here I don't know them but I later realised they'd messaged me on two of my old accounts which I deleted in the past encouraging me to join their community. Here they state that it "may" be a rival of Chatswapmeetdevon but the reality is why would I join a rival community? Why are people using my popularity here to try and drag me into situations that don't involve me?
I've spoken to most of them mods here at some point and have always been treated well. I don't like it when people try to use me for their own agenda. In the messages I'm really polite to said person because that's who I am. However, it annoyed me when I eventually clocked on what was happening.
Just be careful anyone who is popular here if you get messages from people you don't know asking you to join their communities. It's usually because the intention may be self serving (using your popularity to boost their community). Even if they are aware that it would make you look disloyal to people who'd been good to you.
I didn't join said persons community because I don't live in that area, I'm not going to be disloyal to mods who have been good to me, I have no interest in being used as a means to boost someone else's community and I'm not interested in being dragged into a situation that doesn't involve me. People need to build up their communities by not trying to steal other members of other communities. Snakey 🐍 behaviour. I'm nice but I'm not naive. Said person has been blocked.
I've covered their messages because they were talking about personal things and I don't reveal information like that because I value people's privacy. I just think snakey 🐍 behaviour should be highlighted. I enjoy being here, I'm not going to risk being kicked out or falling out with good people to benefit someone else's agenda. People need to find their own sexy Asian sub members rather than trying to steal other people's. Just a thought 🤔 Trying to use people to serve ones own agenda isn't very kind thing to do when it would bring about consequences for an innocent person. Due to the things said I suspect the person was paying a lot of attention to my posts and comments section because they contacted me on the basis of being a formerly prolific poster yet that had been discussed by another person in comments towards me so a little odd really.
Kinda like a "don't eat with them, eat with me I'll feed you" but the reality is why would I bite the hands of those who fed me (metaphorically). I don't really understand the mentality of trying to encourage people to be disloyal to people who've been good to them and also the intention of trying to use that person to boost popularity. After August when I can start losing weight I'm sure I'll be more popular here and I enjoy being here so as stated how find your own members rather than trying to nick other people's. Snakey behaviour. I'm loyal person. As if I'm going to join a community I don't know that's considered a possible rival of this one. Some people are so DUSTY.
My responses may not make sense but I was just being told the person developed relations got burned it created a situation. I was saying I would never date anyone online or from an NSFW sub because many people aren't truly single despite their claims and I plan on meeting someone in the real world. The person then revealed they knowingly had an affair which is why I asked the last question. I respect people's personal decisions but I wouldn't personally do that.
Due to anonymity I'm covering myself but figured I could show a little of my face I guess. Won't keep this post up for long but wanted to say "a proper hello" I guess.
ATM I'm just covering certain areas but after August I will show full again. It's only my stomach area I cover. I don't think I cover anything else, except obvs I don't show my 😺 completely. Please don't ask why I'm covering my stomach until after August it's private reason really. But you'll see full body pictures after August 😊
I mean I'm guessing a few people missing the arrow belly button 🤭
It's actually quite funny 🤣 what I think happens is I block people for reasonable reasons and they then create new accounts just to talk to me assuming I'm not aware of who they are. They all send nice messages but I think people need to understand that if they've been blocked there is a good reason for that. For example, one person seemed genuine until I vetted their profile and saw that they were on a mysogyny men sub Reddit, and a women inferior subreddit. Of course, that's not compatible with my views so the conversation doesn't need to go further.
Full body pics will be available after mid August. I like to keep my life private which is why I'm not currently posting full body pics just the bits that get you 😈 I will give it to them they are on their best behaviour when they create a new account I just don't know whether to find the effort to interact with my endearing or highly amusing. I think it's the latter 🤭
I only do three posts a day max as per the sub rules although that will soon decrease as I'm getting quite busy.
Anyway, if there was a question you'd want to ask me what question would it be?
Do you have any curious questions about me?
The only questions I won't answer
*Age (I will say I'm in my 20s not late but not exactly how old)
*Children
*Work
*Family
*Studies
*Location (I keep it vague and say Devon)
I am happy to answer other questions though
I get a lot of popularity on here although this is the only NSFW sub I'm on. So I figured some might be a little curious about me.