u/Practical-Trip-1997-

My age is 29 years old and I live in Germany and I had 5-6 hookups and after every hookup post nut clarity and mainly religious guilt hits hard and there have been many points where I talk to people on Reddit or Grindr and when we decide to meet, I chicken out because of this religion guilt. How do you guys cope with this? I don’t know what to do!!!

I am 30 years old and living in Germany. I consider myself a somewhat practising Muslim. I pray most of the time, though I do miss prayers occasionally.

Lately, a big internal conflict has arisen. One part of me is seriously considering entering dating and physical relationships because the idea of marriage feels chaotic, overwhelming, and scary. Another part of me strongly feels that this path is wrong.

I have managed to stay away from such things so far, but the temptation is becoming harder to ignore. I am looking for honest perspectives from others who may have faced a similar situation. How did you handle this tension? Did you wait, seek marriage despite the fears, or find another way to manage it?

I am an educated person and have a good job and I go gym 4-5 days a week (writing this here because some people will advise me to hit gym)