35M, married 8 years, can't satisfy my wife at all. Guilt is killing me.
I'm 35 and I've completely failed my wife in bed for 8 years. I can't even satisfy her a little. The second I try to insert, I get sharp pain at the tip of my penis from hypersensitivity (penile/glans hypersensitivity). I only found out after marriage. Treatments haven't helped.
I can't even do proper foreplay, my hands shiver and shake, I get overwhelmed, nervous and I fail her there too. She cries silently at night, masturbates alone because she's so frustrated, and tells me how her friends at least have some bedroom life while she has nothing. She isolates herself with tears. When she opens up about it, it destroys me inside.
Meanwhile, I jerk off to porn daily, finish in 2-3 minutes, and sleep. The guilt is eating me alive. I feel pathetic and worthless. I regret marrying her, she deserves real pleasure, not this suffering.
Life feels like a huge mistake.