Regarding Approach
Keeping in mind that, while not everyone is private about their individual interests, the majority of us probably aren't completely open about them either, I'm curious: How would you actually like to be approached by another man?
I'm not talking about the fantasy itself, but that very first interaction—the one that could potentially lead to the fantasy.
I've seen plenty of suggestions about subtle "signals," but I have a hard time believing that constantly shifting around in your seat at the local lounge is really sending a clear "I'm interested" message. 😄 I'm talking about something beyond the initial attraction.
Personally, while I definitely have a type, I've also found that I've sometimes overlooked that initial physical attraction and ended up being much more interested because of someone's personality. In fact, I've had better luck meeting people in places where I wasn't necessarily expecting it—the gym, the grocery store, and even one incredibly random encounter at a library.
So let's say there's no obvious setup, no props, no overt signals, and no unnecessary theater. You're sitting in the lounge enjoying a nice cigar, you notice me, and I'm interested in approaching you.
What would make you feel comfortable being approached?
I'm genuinely curious. What could another man do—or say—that would make that first interaction feel natural, respectful, and comfortable for you?