I married my husband 4 years ago after 3 years together. At the time we were dating he shared a flat with a friend, that was very hard to read (about his sexuality): No gf, no bf, no many friends. He was opened to hanging out with us in gay bars, where I noticed that after some drinks he’d hit on me. This happened multiple times, although I thought I was just imagining things. Fast forward to the day that my husband and I moved in together in another flat, his friend was happy for us and just a few weeks later he came out to us. I wasn’t surprised but I was a bit disappointed that someone so close didn’t feel safe to be complete open to us. Anyway I respected it. We got married, and moved to another city.
Just a few months later he visit us, and we were drinking a lot, the friend got very handsy on me under the table. My husband excuse himself and went to sleep while I said I was just going to make our friend comfortable. And I did. I made up with the friend as soon as the door shut. I was very curious about this Scottish lad, and what he was packing. We changed some oral and then I let him fuck me raw. Sex was alright, he was packing a good size cock, and he definitely moaned his soul out when I ate and fingered his ass. He said he was looking for this for ages, that he had signed me many times before but I never gave him a clear indication of continue. He left a load deep inside me and said he want it more. We plan to meet again just the two of us but the post clarity hit him bad the next morning. He barely spoke to me and I haven’t heard from him since two years ago. My husband doesn’t know anything about it, but now he is pissed about that “friend” that stop replying the texts . I feel super guilty because I haven’t mentioned to my husband that the reason his friend stop visiting us is because I was a bit too good host. Honestly, I think that friendship was going to fall short anyway, as the friend is on the selfish side. Should I come clear with my husband and take my part of responsibility? Or just let our friend go?
Not related to this particular event, but my marriage sexual life is null due to medical reasons (from his side). I survive on a dildo and masturbation (how sad). And I am definitely considering to ask to open our relationship. I love to bits but you can’t have a tiger if you can feed him!!. I mentioned this because the few times I contact this friend after the event, he insistently asked if my hubby knew, but the vibe I felt was like the wanted to be the official third leg, or just not lying about this to his friend. What should I do? Help!