u/Rory_Doppelganger

So a few weeks ago I posted a few of my photos on a smaller subreddit and also decided to get Grindr to see if there even are any people using it in my country which is still pretty conservative and the region I live in is on the edge of being rural so I didn't expect much. Oh. My. God! They won't get off my ass, DMs on reddit are full of dozen and dozen men and Grindr is 10x times worse, to a point I deactivated Grindr notifications that same day I got it (my phone was set on vibration only, but still). Now I do appreciate the attention and some affirmation that I look more feminine than I thought, but it's just getting out of hand.

It doesn't help that I don't live alone and have very little bit of privacy, I have a demanding job with either morning, afternoon or night shifts that leaves me exhausted along with some obligations at home, something that men texting me seem to often disregard or even assume I'm making it up because I am scared. Basically I barely get an opportunity to dress up let alone hook up with someone, even though I'd want to, hell I'd probably spend a good chunk of my free time hooking up if conditions were better. There are also those who act like I'm a brainless toy who will drive to their house the moment they send a dozen dick pics, something I also stated to them I don't like (humiliation play or anything in that range) but it still gets ignored and they continue to act the same way.

Seriously how to deal with this avalanche of (a little bit annoying) men, especially those who can't take a hint nor direct rejection?!