u/SaltCityGuy21

For the last 2 years I have successfully setup and established a men JO group here in Utah. We have 150 members and events bring 25-30 men currently and 50 men expected by winter. If anyone is interested in getting a group established in MT, I would be happy to help.

Mods, please delete if not allowed. Im curious to know how interested guys would be in Utah having their own Jacks group. Im working on getting Salt City Jacks setup. Comment below if you like this idea. Thank you!

Honestly, I think a lot of us are craving more than just getting off.

I miss real male connection. Brotherhood. Hanging out with other chill masculine guys where the vibe feels safe, relaxed, honest, and free of all the weird posturing.

Music. Conversation. Laughing. Maybe mutual release. Maybe not. Just genuine connection and closeness between men without shame, labels, or pressure.

Feels like a lot of men are starving for this right now but don’t really have the words for it.

Utah guy here. If this resonates, hit me up.

I’ve spent a lot of years thinking about men, intimacy, shame, loneliness, and the strange landscape modern men are trying to navigate.

What I’ve come to believe is this:

Male sexuality is far more complex than the labels society tries to force onto it.

The body does not always follow the rules culture writes for it.

For most of human history, men lived in close proximity to one another. They worked together, slept beside each other, bathed together, fought together, raised families beside each other, and often shared levels of emotional and physical closeness that modern society would immediately sexualize or shame.

Today, many men live isolated lives. We are taught to fear intimacy with other men unless it fits inside a very narrow box society approves of. Touch became suspicious. Vulnerability became weakness. Brotherhood became competition. And many men quietly carry enormous loneliness behind otherwise normal lives.

I don’t believe masturbation is inherently isolating. In many ways, it can become one of the last remaining forms of honest intimacy men still allow themselves to experience without judgment. Strip away the politics, labels, fear, and performance, and what remains is something deeply human: sensation, connection, trust, nervous-system release, affection, vulnerability, and the desire to simply feel close to another man.

That philosophy eventually led me to create The Fraternal Order of the Unbroken Brotherhood here in Utah — a private brotherhood centered around authentic male connection, emotional honesty, camaraderie, body acceptance, mentorship across generations, and spaces where men can finally let the mask come off.

Some men in our brotherhood are straight.
Some are gay.
Some are married.
Some are questioning.
Some simply miss closeness with other men.

What matters to me is not labels.
What matters is honesty.

We host private brotherhood gatherings and public discussion nights where men can connect without pretending to be something they are not. For some men that looks emotional. For others it becomes physical, sensual, nurturing, affectionate, sexual, or deeply healing. Every man is on his own journey, and I believe men deserve spaces where they can explore connection without fear, humiliation, or shame.

I’m especially interested in conversations about:
• male bonding
• edging/gooning psychology
• the emotional side of masturbation
• intimacy between men
• shame and religious conditioning
• masculine vulnerability
• solosexuality
• touch deprivation
• brotherhood and ritual
• nervous-system regulation through intimacy
• the historical loss of male spaces
• how men lived before sexuality became hyper-labeled

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to reach out.

You are probably far less alone than you think.