I live an idyllic life. I'm a 42/m who works as an English professor.
I have been married for twenty years. My wife and I have two amazing daughters, and we have a beautiful life filled with family outings and vacations. I have good friends, supportive colleagues, job security, and am generally admired by my students and community for being a consummate family man and educator.
Underneath this exterior, however, is a form of longing that will be familiar to anyone who spends enough time on this side of the internet. Longing for new experiences, bodies, gazes. I'm always searching for an intimacy that feels brand new, that makes me remember what it's like to have those long-forgotten emotions: having a crush, being with someone for the first time, craving, yearning.
I have chased that feeling into hotel rooms on work trips, into bars in towns I am only passing through, onto apps such as this one where people bare their hearts. I leave those experiences with predictable shame and guilt. But there are other feelings too, that we never talk about. Feeling renewed, feeling excited beyond belief. Deep satisfaction.
And now, not for the first time, I am chasing my desire here.
I'm looking to talk to those of you drawn to being the other woman. Have you done it? Have you fantasized about it? What would convince you to go into that hotel room? What is it about a wedding ring that doesn't put you off, that presents as a challenge?
I'm primarily interested in the psychological aspect of it, the push and pull. Let's talk about how we allowed our boundaries to be pushed and broken. Of course, I'm not opposed to discussing the physical as well--the allure of being with a new person, of pleasuring a man who is not your man, of the thrill of contrasts--married/unmarried, old/young, experienced/inexperienced.
I'm mostly looking for a conversation, but wouldn't mind some light roleplaying with the right person. In your first message, tell me what spoke to you about my post, and a bit about yourself. I'm not fussy about your age, location, or star-sign, as long as you're open-hearted and fun to talk to. I hope to hear from you soon.