u/SpawnFan99

we had our ups and downs but stuck it out and worked through it we were together for 7 years when we had our first child and then 2 years later bought a big house in the suburbs with an in ground pool. everything seemed perfect she had horrible debt but i was making good money and paid off her 20k debt and she even was paying me back instead of me paying half the grocers each month she paid it in full but said 400 was being taken off the loan each month i agreed everything seemed good then we would argue same old same old stupid arguments. i didn't think anything of it then summer of 2025 she told me there's this puerto rican kid at work that always flirts with her but when he gets too inappropriate she would tell him shes happily engaged. she said he was short had pimples was like 10+ years younger then her. so i didnt think anything of it and she hardly told me anything else or mentioned him again. December of last year came around and i felt she became distance wasn't talking much i would eat dinner alone and didn't think much of it. New years eve i didn't get a kiss at mid night weird never happened before but again i brushed it off. then she told me she had to put a pass code on her phone bc of instacart she was going to do to get extra money then quit that. then January started the fights and arguments start occurring more and more and she was so angry telling me shes been telling her coworkers how unhappy shes been and they all agree im not a good partner i was blind sided confused asked why are you telling your coworkers about our personal fights like its between us. we didnt touch or kiss at all like zero affection. feb comes shes doing the taxes for the past 3 years she would alwys give me 1/2 of whatever she got back from our child (she had 2 from someone else) she never brought up about the refund which my hal would be 1500 so i asked her about it and she flipped saying shes struggling with bills and living pay check to pay check bc she pays most of the bills bc i paid for the house 100%. so feeling bad i gave in and said she could keep it she said the refund would have been 2400 but she needed the 1500 and agreed to give me 700 i turned it down and told her to keep it she needs it more then me. few weeks after that she said her credit card bill was 700 and she doesn't have it but will when she gets her income tax and asked if i could lend her it i was like of course don't even feel awkward asking we are partners and i love you. so i venmoed her 750 and 2 weeks alter she paid it back. next few months would be weird she would always be on her phone smirking at it when we opened the pool i would play with the baby in the pool as she would wear her skimpy bikinis taking selfies i was suspicious and asked who are you taking those selfies for she would say her female friend at work...... it built up and up i came into the bedroom one night she passed out watching tiktok and her phone never went to lock mode so..........i flicked it open and went to text his name was the 2nd name down and clicked in scrolled up and good morning text heart kissing emojis bikini lingerie pics somewhere taken while i was out with the baby and she was in her skimpy bikini she was told to go in take selfies inside and come back out. they would leave work around 2 go to a parking lot for sex and then she would come home at 4 when she would normally get home. i confronted her and she lied but eventually admitting everything she sent him nudes was f'n him in the parking lot near work multiple times a week sometimes multiple times a day. she sent him shower videos nude videos naked pics masturbation pics and videos. was exercising after she was done sex to get in better shape for him. then found out he popped two of his tires back to back weeks each week she sent him $250 for each of the tires. then he totaled his car and she sent him $3000 on top of that from her bank account hat only had #3020.00 in it theres so much more ask questions this all came out a month ago.