u/TheCharmingVixen

I am a communicative person, who has no issues mentioning when something make myself feel odd. I'll sometimes request a behaviour to stop , voice why it makes me feel on a bad way and do a request... Some other times I'll simply draw a line with a clear no.

Still, this doesn't seem to be something taking well a lot of times. I want to talk about what I feel is the "dom space" and the "dom pride" , something fragile on many who believe being a dom is being able to do anything to a sub without really minding their consent.

I'll bring it with an example, through a plugin of a game, I got gagged and blindfolded by a person I was doing a vetting period for. This happened when they were not even close to me, this happened without any prio talking from their end, this happened while I was with a friend. I used my safeword and it gave me 2 things: A really annoyed domme because "no one ever use their safeword with them before" and some cold and silent treatment afterwards, which I mentioned did hurt me. When I requested being told beforehand, I got told it got them out of "domspace".

In one hand, I understand that you darlings, may enjoy that "doubtcon?" (which I will always call non-con, only yes means yes), but there must be lines drawn between fantasies and reality.

My irl friends and relations go first, still I got doms getting mad at me for being with my friends still of going with them right when they wanted, etc...

The feeling I get is that people doesn't really respect boundaries. But perhaps I am in the wrong and I should be the one changing myself.

On a side note to the people who introduces themselves as:
27M 6'2" 7 inches. May I get a "Hello" and a name before y'all talk about your cocks and act hurt when I -ASK- for it?

And no, I'm not a brat posting this all to bait and lure. I genuinely want to talk this and have some understanding, to know if this is the usual, if I am just unlucky, or if I am in the wrong myself ❤️

Much love, Roxx