M 25 and partner F24, entering a very long, long distance relationship.
Hey there. I’m M25, and my partner F25 and I have been together for just over 6 years. Albeit off and on due to outside influences and situations. Before reconnecting around 7 months ago, I had made a life plan to move 6000km across country. I’ve been across country for 2 months now, and my partner and I are in a very healthy spot. The love we have is incredible, and we’ve been healthy since reconnecting. We have video call date nights, and text every single day.
We’ve recently set a date for when I can go back home and help her move with me across country. We’ve set a date 1.5 years from now. And I’m struggling with internal questions. 1.5 years is a long time to be away from her. And I’ve had thoughts about what intimacy and physical needs look like during our time apart. We’re both very sexual people, and have been a very sexual couple. I’m worried about what the distance and time away from each other could mean for our intimacy.
The thought of asking about potentially being in an open relationship has crossed my mind. For sexual needs. But I just don’t know if craving sexual needs, is a valid thing to think about. Or if I’m being selfish thinking about potential sex with other people. I’m just struggling with that internal battle. That want for intimacy and sex, when we’re a country away is hard to navigate, and the idea of proposing an open relationship is honestly scary. Not because I feel that it would split us apart, but that it’s not the right thing to think about or ask her about. I’m just very confused.
I don’t see my self dating anyone else other than her, or having a future with anyone else but her. I know where my heart is, and it’s with her. But the thought of a year and half apart, and how large our sexual cravings are is hard to navigate.
Am I wrong for wondering about an open relationship to strictly seek sex and physical intimacy? Is it normal to have those thoughts? Is it okay to even ask her if she would could consider we have an open relationship? I’ve never gone through this amount of time apart, and it’s just weighing heavy on my mind.