Should I get surgery?
I’ve never told anyone this before, so this is honestly really hard for me to post. I know people are going to say that all labia are normal, and I know that. I know there’s a huge range of what’s considered normal, but that doesn’t change how I feel. Mine has been one of my biggest insecurities for years. It’s not just about how it looks either it’s physically uncomfortable sometimes, and I feel like I can’t have sex normally because I’m constantly thinking about it. I don’t ever want anyone to see it. There’s this guy I’m talking to that I genuinely really like, and eventually he wants to go down on me, but I just can’t. I know people will say, “If he really likes you, he won’t care,” and I get that, but I genuinely can’t put myself in that position. The thought of someone seeing me like that makes me want to cry. It’s something I’ve been hiding for so long, and I hate that it has this much control over me.
I’m honestly so tired of feeling this way. I’ve been thinking about getting a labiaplasty because I don’t know how much longer I can live with this insecurity. I’m posting here because I just want honest, kind feedback from people who understand or have similar anatomy. Please be respectful—this is something I’ve never opened up about before, and I’m feeling really vulnerable.