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For anyone who’s ever been curious about wearing thongs as a guy, or who enjoys them but keeps it hidden away, I thought I’d share my own journey.

Like a lot of men, my introduction to thongs was through women’s fashion. As a teenager and young adult, I found them attractive and interesting, and at some point I discovered that men’s versions actually existed. This was long before online shopping was as easy as it is today, and they certainly weren’t something you could just walk into any shop and find.

I still remember my first thong. It was a bright red “stripper-style” thong that I nervously ordered online in the fairly early days of the internet. Looking back, it probably wasn’t the most practical choice, but it felt exciting simply because it was something different.

As time went on, I occasionally bought a few more from department stores, but I was still living with my parents and kept my small collection carefully hidden away. Back then, wearing them was something I only did occasionally and usually for short periods. It felt like a guilty pleasure rather than something I could openly enjoy.

Over the years, I became more comfortable wearing them and gradually started keeping them on for longer. Then life moved on, I met the woman who would eventually become my wife, and for a while the thongs took a bit of a back seat. I still liked them, but I wore them less often and mostly kept that side of myself private.

Eventually, I admitted to my wife that I liked thongs. Even then, it took me quite a while longer to tell her that I actually wore them myself. Like many people, I worried about how she’d react and whether she’d think it was strange.

For years after that, I continued my behind-closed-doors approach. I’d wear them occasionally, enjoy them, then put them away again.

The real change came in my late thirties.

One day I essentially asked myself a simple question: Why am I hiding something that I genuinely enjoy and that harms nobody?

I liked the comfort. I liked the way they felt. I liked the styles. Most importantly, I liked wearing them.

So I stopped treating it like a secret hobby and started embracing it.

I began wearing thongs every day, and honestly, I loved it. What started as occasional wear became my normal underwear choice. The more I wore them, the more natural it felt.

Eventually, I had a proper conversation with my wife about it. To my relief, she understood my perspective and accepted it completely. What I’d spent years worrying about turned out to be far less of an issue than I’d imagined.

Fast forward to today and I’ve probably gone a little overboard. My collection has grown to an almost ridiculous size—far more pairs than any sensible person could ever need. Some days I think I have too many to wear them all!

The best part is that it’s completely normal in our household now. My wife doesn’t see it as unusual at all. Occasionally she’ll even compliment a pair I’m wearing or tell me she likes a new style I’ve bought.

What I’ve realised through this journey is that confidence and self-acceptance matter far more than the type of underwear you’re wearing. Once I stopped worrying about what I thought people might think, I became much happier with myself.

It also helped me understand something else about myself. Through becoming more comfortable with who I was and what I enjoyed, I came to realise that I’m bisexual. I’m happily married to my wife and deeply committed to her, but I also recognised that I can be attracted to other men. For me, that realisation was sometimes connected to the attraction I felt towards other men who wore thongs, although it’s certainly not limited to that.

I want to be clear that wearing thongs doesn’t mean anything about someone’s sexuality, and plenty of thong wearers will never have that experience. But for me personally, exploring this side of myself helped me better understand who I am. Rather than something to be ashamed of, I found it incredibly liberating to accept that I’m bisexual and to feel comfortable with that part of my identity. That self-understanding has only been a positive thing in my life.

These days I enjoy sharing my experiences online, whether that’s on forums, Reddit, or other communities. If my story helps even one guy feel more comfortable wearing what he genuinely enjoys, then it’s worth sharing.

Life’s too short to spend decades hiding something as harmless as your choice of underwear.

Wear what makes you comfortable. Wear what makes you feel good. And don’t be afraid to be yourself.