u/Top_Grapefruit_895

It’s completely unclear to me. The first time I dared to ask for a spanking was when a girl spanked my butt during sex. I mentioned that a friend of mine was a dominatrix and spanked men. I asked, "Would you like to try spanking someone?" to which she said, "Yes, I would." So I offered to spank her. She agreed. We stopped having sex, and I walked around the apartment and found a belt. I brought it and handed it to her. She said, "Get on all fours." I was a little embarrassed because she would see my anus, and I was quite scared and nervous. I stood up. But then I got embarrassed and turned off the light. She came up behind me and started spanking me with the belt. It hurt a little, but I responded and moaned a little. Then she spanked me harder, and at some point I said, "Enough! Thank you!" and we continued having sex. And that was a first.

Then I met another girl and we discussed it for a long time, and only then did she spank me, but overall, it wasn't as intense or interesting. Now I'm in a long-term relationship and I don't really know what to do. After all, if I ask for a spanking, it's like I'm deciding it's time to spank me, but I'd rather her be proactive. I want her to want it. We agreed that I could put a belt or flogger in a visible place and if she wanted, she could join in. I've done this a few times, but she's never been interested. Basically, I don't know what to do. It's all kind of weird. Or should I just pose, hand her the belt, and say, "Spank"? Maybe you could tell me something.