u/U-Les

I matched with a woman on Feeld who was looking for a new sub or an FLR and I ended up messaging her first. Basically I acknowledged I’ve read her profile and understand what she’s looking for, asked what she was looking for in a submissive, and how she felt about inexperience.

She replied saying hi and asking confirming my zero experience as a submissive which I have displayed on my profile, and I was honest and replied yes. She very kindly replied with “Bahahaha, I fucking hate projects lol. Before I pass on you tell me why you’re interested in submission.” Suddenly the song Walk by Pantera started playing in my head, and I texted her back “actually, I’m good” and let her unmatch.

Now it’s not the worst experience I’ve ever had but it definitely stood out. I dunno if it’s because she’s a domme or if she’s just rude as hell but whatever. Dommes, I know y’all deal with this too, someone talking to you as if you’re already in a dynamic together, meanwhile you’re actually strangers. The way that subs come out with the “ooh mommy mommy mommy step on me spit on me” some dommes start off with “haha pathetic man tell me why you’re worth my time.” Like no miss, you mean nothing to me. Don’t speak to me that way when we’ve barely said hi.

To the subs, I’m not asking that you tell people like that to fuck off. Just unmatch, say youre not interested, or say nothing. It doesn’t matter if you or I ever experience a d/s dynamic, don’t let nobody treat you like a chore or any stranger talk down to you. Be quick to move on, and like my dad told me “keep your memory short about this kind of thing.” (I didn’t tell him about this, it’s just his general advice for dating) I know we’re all yearning for it, but your self esteem and integrity is more important. To the dommes who think you can talk like that to us…

BE YOURSELF, BY YOURSELF, STAY AWAY FROM ME