I am 23 (f) and also indian, and my parents are super traditional and cultural. I live away from them
im dating a white guy. I moved in with him and lied to my parents about living with a girl for a year. We've been dating 2 years. For context, my parents have made multiple comments that they will disappprove of me marrying outside my culture. So i was scared to tell them about him. I was also in nursing school and graduated 4 months ago. Had knee surgery after that. Nursing school is stressful and i didn't want to deal with the stress of telling my parents. Plus my partner took care of me during surgery.
I told my dad a week ago, he was upset, unhappy with me that i lied to him. He hasnt told mom yet cus he thinks she wont be able to take it. I love my parents, i respect them so much i owe them my life.
My dad has barely talked to me in a week. I feel terrible. I feel bad i hurt him and now i have to tell mom at some point. I can't take it anymore.
I hate that i hurt them. Dad hates the idea of me living with him. But where else would i have gone? Im new to the country why would i live w a random person? My partner means the world to me. But so do my parents