Spanking, etc. - thoughts {M4F}
I've been around the block a couple of times and managed to survive into my 60s. Been with a pretty good number of women, plus the occasional foray into the bi and group world, so while I'm not Lothario or Sting, I've had my fun in my time.
What has consistently astonished me, to this day, is the number, the sheer percentage of women (and men, to be fair, and couples) who love being spanked, slapped, struck, during sex play. I grew up always the women are equal; we agree that women in positions of power are great and most men are toxic, mysogenistic assholes, so it's fascinating that sexually so many women desire to cede that power to a man and be spanked, to be slapped, dominated, controlled.
I'm about the most pacifist person you'll meet. I would never dream of hitting a woman in anger. It's repellant. But while I'm astonished when a woman desires rough play, I'm also astonished by the physical response in my own body. I remember the first time I slapped a woman whilst fucking her I thought my dick was going to explode. The feeling of power when you hit a partner is astonishing. For a Pisces pacifist like myself it's intoxicating.
There's a play called The Doctor in Spite of Himself (Le Médecin malgré lui), written by Molière in 1666. In the opening scene, we see Sganarelle and Martine, a married couple, arguing. The fight goes on, and eventually Sganarelle, who's really a prick, starts humiliating and beating his wife with a stick. A neighbor, Monsier Robert, rushes in, saying "WTF you doing dude you can't beat your wife like that!" Martine, perhaps someone whom today we might call a Hotwife, turns on M. Robert and says, "But I want him to beat me! Why are you squawking about it anyway?"
This was 1666. The play takes off hilariously from there, but you get my point. In the theater big laugh from that line.
"But I want him to beat me!" and 360 years later bottoms are spanked until they're rosy and warm. Cheeks are slapped. Hair is pulled. Men (sometimes assholes like Sganarelle, sometimes cool dudes like me) are excited by the controlled violence. People play CNC games, are tightly bound in rope, are whipped with belts; the world of impact play and BDSM is a profound and fascinating one that never ceases to astonish me.