u/bigideas26

Let’s imagine two very different kinds of sex:

Firstly, the sweet, sensual sex. The kind of sex that’s gentle, caring, and focused on mutual pleasure and enjoyment. The sexual equivalent of a Swedish massage, the kind of sex that you can just melt into without it taking too much effort or thought. We caress one another with our fingertips, we’re lying facing one another so that we can kiss while our hands run over the familiar and comforting warmth of our bodies, searching out the sensitive spots that we know from experience are there. Then, almost always, long, slow oral for you. I love going down on you, and I love your scent and how you taste. After an orgasm for you, I climb up and slide inside you, and I adore the way your pussy feels around my cock every single time. I would have it far more often, if you wanted it. But I make the most of every time by thrusting long and slow, drawing it out, and enjoying every single second between the time I slide inside you and the moment I just can’t hold back anymore and throb inside you. It’s only a couple of minutes, but it’s the best couple of minutes of my week.

Second, the wild, adventurous sex that only happens when the chemistry is off the charts. The kind of sex where the magnetism means that you just can’t resist one another, and you’re willing to do anything to please him. Starting by dropping to your knees and kissing and licking every inch of his perfect, thick, rock hard shaft, all the while looking up at him and making eye contact with big, inviting eyes. It doesn’t take him long to take control; firstly, a hand on the back of your head, gently but firmly guiding the depth and rhythm. Then a fist closing around your hair. And you know what comes next? Him holding your head in place as he starts to fuck your mouth, making you take him deeper and deeper, barely pausing to let you catch your breath. By the end, you’re gasping for air and glistening with all the thick spit spilling out from between your lips and off the end of his cock, rolling down your chest. He slides his hand between your legs and feels you soaking wet and ready for him, and tells you what a good girl you are for getting so turned on just by taking his cock in your throat. You can imagine where things might go from there, and the hours and hours that the two of you spend fucking, ending up spent and exhausted and fully satisfied.

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Why is it that with me, it’s always the first kind of sex and never the second? And why is it that the fantasy of me getting the slow, gentle sex with you, while other men get to see your wild and slutty side is such a turn on? 

I don’t even consider myself a stereotypical cuck; you know, the weak, pathetic men with small dicks that you often read about who have this kink. I’m successful, charming, good looking, emotionally intelligent, good conversation, and even pretty well endowed (though it’s all relative…). In many ways, I’m the perfect partner. Except it’s easy to get bored of loving, sensual sex after a while. 

But maybe that’s the perfect set up for you? A relationship where you have a partner like me who you can be proud of, and have a deep, loving, mutually respectful, and intellectual connection with. The kind of partner who maybe you don’t want to be a complete slut for. But that slutty side of you does exist, and you have to let it out somewhere. What better way than to have a partner like me who turns out to be more than a little turned on by you having wild sex with other men?

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Thanks for reading and I hope you enjoyed the ideas in the prompt. I'm looking for a conversation, not a roleplay, where we explore our thoughts, feelings, and fantasies about this topic and see where the conversation leads us.

Kinks: sexual imbalances, unfairness, comparisons, cuckolding, jealousy, wanting what I can't have, and more.

The thud of a paddle, the pinch of nipple clamps, the crack of a belt across the buttocks. There are many kinds of pain. But, in my opinion, none of them are as sweet or as effective as the psychological or emotional kind.

The best part is that finding just the right words and ideas to trigger mental anguish. It's an art that requires you to know a person inside out, their fears, their insecurities, their traumas.

Perhaps being called slut hits you harder than it should because of your conservative background, where sex and sexual desire were always seen as shameful, especially for women. And despite the fact that the way you behave for me is, without a doubt, very slutty, hearing the words said out lout fills you with a delicious conflict of excitement and residual shame.

Maybe being compared to an ex-girlfriend, or to other women, turns you on in ways you can't quite explain. Most people don't like hearing that another woman was hotter than you, or thinner than you, or fucked your man better than you do. You don't straightforwardly love it either, but nonetheless, you can't help but feeling yourself get wet even just at the thought.

These are just examples, and everyone is unique. I want to explore the topics that hit your brain in exactly the right way. The topics that sting the most, but that you can't resist. The ideas that transform sex from good to incredible when the right man whispers them into your ear as he fucks you.

I've written this post assuming that you like receiving emotional pain, but I'm equally interested in talking to people who enjoy being the one to give it out.

If you agree with me that mental pain is the hottest, most powerful kind of pain that there is when it comes to sex, we'll have a lot to talk about.

Different kinds of guys bring out different sides in you. It’s a trope, but to keep things simple you can divide them up into two camps: the guys who bring out your inner slut, and the guys where you keep it more vanilla.

All guys exist somewhere on this spectrum. What I really want to know is what is it about the guys who make you moan the loudest, cum the hardest, offer up anal sex on the first date, gag and spit all over their cock like your life depends on it, and generally turn you into a dick-drunk little slut?

Perhaps it’s something about their confidence? Maybe it’s the expectations they imply? Maybe it’s that they make you feel safe to experiment? Or, maybe, they’re just really attractive and you’re willing to do anything to impress them.

And then there are the guys who don’t bring out your slutty side. The quiet and reserved ones. The ones who are shy about their fantasies. Deep down, we all know that they’d love it if you acted your sluttiest with them, but they’ll never get to experience it. I find this idea of what they’re missing out on super hot, and I like the thought that it’s due to something innate about their personality that would be almost impossible for them to change.

These guys are never going to see the version of you that worships cock, begs for cum, and is desperate to be called a good girl — no matter how much they dream about it beneath the façade of civility and no matter how hard they try.

I’m looking for a conversation where we talk about the different kinds of sex that different guys get — the fact that girls are willing to completely submit and degrade themselves for certain men’s enjoyment, while keeping it much more tame for others. It’s not fair, especially for the men who only ever get vanilla sex. Let’s talk about what they’re missing out on and why.