u/chocolate-milkshake3

Are there even any real subs left anymore?

All I get in my DM requests are guys asking if they can just "be my friend", asking for suggestions on how to convince some other domme, and a bunch of other useless questions. Like what is going on?

Where are the subs who actually want to spoil me, treat me like a Goddess, and know their place?

I really need some genuine subs at this point, like long term ones. Not the ones who just ask how much the tribute is and immediately leave, and not the ones who take one session and vanish forever.

Also, if u think Im fake or just lurking around, literally go check my verification post first.

Are u guys dealing with this too? Where are u even finding genuine long term subs these days bc the DMs are just full of time wasters lately.

Are there even any real subs left anymore?

All I get in my DM requests are guys asking if they can just "be my friend", asking for suggestions on how to convince some other domme, and a bunch of other useless questions. Like what is going on?

Where are the subs who actually want to spoil me, treat me like a Goddess, and know their place?

I really need some genuine subs at this point, like long term ones. Not the ones who just ask how much the tribute is and immediately leave, and not the ones who take one session and vanish forever.

Also, if u think Im fake or just lurking around, literally go check my verification post first.

Are u guys dealing with this too? Where are u even finding genuine long term subs these days bc the DMs are just full of time wasters lately.

There are so many subs who just reach out saying hi, hello, hey. What the hell is that and why do they expect us to respond to such low effort texts?

I feel like a proper intro is needed right away. Like give me ur ASL, kinks, limits, and tell me if u are going to tribute or not. Also they should use proper titles right away like Goddess, Princess, Queen, or Mistress. (And let me know what they want to be addressed as).

I actually try to be fair. Im not the type who asks for tribute first just for saying a single word. I always offer to do verification first, and THEN they can tribute. I even tell subs they should always ask for verification first before sending money so they don't get scammed by fake accounts.

But lately Ive been getting subs reaching out just for advice and it's so annoying. Like they ask for suggestions on how to get rid of a current domme, or how to talk to a domme without paying anything. Im not an advisor.

If this continues I feel like I'll have to start doing what the scammers/fakes do and demand tribute before I even say a word, just so these subs don't leave as soon as they get free advice from me.

How do u guys handle this? Do u just ignore the "hey" messages? Do u demand tribute upfront before even verifying just to weed out the time wasters and advice seekers? Let me know what u guys do bc Im so over it.

There are so many subs who just reach out saying hi, hello, hey. What the hell is that and why do they expect us to respond to such low effort texts?

I feel like a proper intro is needed right away. Like give me ur ASL, kinks, limits, and tell me if u are going to tribute or not. Also they should use proper titles right away like Goddess, Princess, Queen, or Mistress. (And let me know what they want to be addressed as).

I actually try to be fair. Im not the type who asks for tribute first just for saying a single word. I always offer to do verification first, and THEN they can tribute. I even tell subs they should always ask for verification first before sending money so they don't get scammed by fake accounts.

But lately Ive been getting subs reaching out just for advice and it's so annoying. Like they ask for suggestions on how to get rid of a current domme, or how to talk to a domme without paying anything. Im not an advisor.

If this continues I feel like I'll have to start doing what the scammers/fakes do and demand tribute before I even say a word, just so these subs don't leave as soon as they get free advice from me.

How do u guys handle this? Do u just ignore the "hey" messages? Do u demand tribute upfront before even verifying just to weed out the time wasters and advice seekers? Let me know what u guys do bc Im so over it.

So I had a meet with this sub in Bangalore recently. The loser paid for a room at the Taj just bc I told him to lol. He was actually doing all his tasks and being super obedient before the session so I was like fine lets do it.

We talked abt his kinks before and it was mostly just basic soft stuff like face sitting, edging, slapping, spit play and breathplay. I told him it was gonna be a CFNM session and I gave him ONE strict rule. I told him absolutely NO LICKING when I sit on his face. I made it super clear.

And guess what he does?? He literally doesn't listen and does it anyway. Im so sick of guys acting like perfect little obedient subs and then just ignoring my rules the second we actually meet. Like wtf.

Im honestly so over it tbh. If guys keep doing this Im literally just gonna stop doing real meets completely and just stick to virtual findom bc this is just so annoying and not worth my time.

Do u guys deal with this too?? What do u even do when they break a hard rule like that? Should I just stay online??

I’ve noticed a pattern lately where prospective subs reach out talking a big game about service and submission, but as soon as real expectations or effort come into play, it turns into them wanting someone to fix their life or manage their basic adult responsibilities. Real submission takes effort, awareness, and initiative. Dommes, how do you filter out people looking for a life coach vs. an actual dynamic? And subs, what’s your take on this trend?