u/clikkietroublemaker

Something that is unexpected about denial is that the "hard days" aren't when you are horny, but actually the opposite. I had constant tingles for three days straight, and throughout all that I was fine. Sure, needy, distracted and nervous but fine. Then comes the day when I don't have that constant high... and everything comes crashing down on me.

It's kind of hard to see the point of subjecting myself to this emotional turmoil sometimes. I find myself wondering "what even is the point" and of course, we have all the sexual fantasy answers to that. Good girls don't cum, you're better when denied blah blah blah. Yeah, but what is the actual point though? I often find myself struggling with that question.

The highs are really high, but the lows make me feel so low and they happen so often and unexpectedly, it is just really disruptive. It is a tumultuous relationship at this point, the highs are so high that I wanna disregard the lows😅 but they do take a toll, and maybe if I found a way to process it all better it'd just be solved. But especially once I start getting past the first few days of denial, I feel more fragile, and it feels unfair for others for me to be so fragile.

Usually on these days I skip touching altogether, cause I just don't know what I'd do if I touched. But that also takes away a soothing action that I used to own for myself.

If you can't tell, this is a hard day🙃 I feel even more alone in this because almost none of the posts on here share the difficult parts of it all besides the horniness. But I assume I can't be alone in this, so I wanted to share

Cheers to day 17 almost ending

I know there are a lot of people lurking on this sub, fantasizing about a possibility of them also being denied someday, and thinking that it would be impossible to manage with their life.

Truth is, the perfect condition we imagine denial in is a world in which we have no work, no social obligations, no people around us and no hobbies besides rubbing all day. And eventually we come to the conclusion that we wouldn't want that life anyway.

If you want to be denied, you will almost always have to only set aside a maximum of a few hours into it each day, most days not even that. Most of your days will be spent with something you're familiar with, being you.

And if you're curious about how denial could fit into your life, the truth is this: it will become routine quite quickly. Just like any other routine you do for your benefit, such as something like brushing your teeth, it will exist without a thought. And then the rest of your days that you get to spend as you did before, those will be your anchors.

The sensations it can create are quite different for people. It can truly be distracting you, it can work as a background need 24/7, or in my case, you'll get to live your normal life the way you have always done, but able to get horny quicker, and stay there longer, and get to enjoy the special treat of orgasms every once in a blue moon.

Today, I found out that I scored my highest GPA in the past three years, and I did it while denied for most of it.

Sure, it may be a distraction. But it may also not be. What do you lose by trying for one week? You never know 🙃

Don't wait for that "perfect" time. It does not exist

Daddy's been giving out a diabolical punishment that I feel like deserves wider appreciation, maybe it'll give inspiration to others. Experienced it twice now, and both times were during when I was denied, and I feel like that just makes everything extra intense😭

The idea is toothpaste on the clit, nothing new, but the twist is you can't wipe/wash it away, you have to dab at it with a wet paper towel until it is all gone...

Let me tell you something.

There is nothing more insane than getting used to the feeling of the toothpaste, getting through the minutes he sets for you, and thinking you're all good.

I thought he said don't wipe because he didn't want my clit to get extra stimulation. Maybe that WAS why.

But my gawd... it just ignites the feeling of the toothpaste to a whole another level😒 You're stuck there trying not to rub at your clit and be a good girl while you're internally like omfg omfg how is this getting more intense now???

So yea. Leaves the clit all tingly for a while afterwards too. It definitely IS a punishment but with denial it is just delicious😭

Once again, a round of applause for my deviously smart Daddy

Ps: please don't call me nicknames in the comments😬

Daddy said I'd only get a chance to cum on play days, which are going to be like once or twice a month. He said we might play next thursday and I said I don't wanna cum on thursday so no.

He said who said you're gonna cum? And I said you always make me cum on play days, and since I get so feral in the moment I don't have it in me to fight and say I don't wanna cum yet🙄

The answer was okay babygirl you're never cumming again❤️

Ehem... pushed my luck there didn't I...

He's so kind, he's just joking right???

Anyway today is day 6 of denial😩How long do u think he is gonna deny me for...

I came up with this idea that one day I am going to avoid calling him Daddy, and use other names instead jokingly, and see how long it takes him to notice🫣

Any ideas??? Has anyone done something similar?

Update: I called him chatgpt as a joke cause he said a robotic sentence and he got so annoyed👀

I think we have talked at length about how doms treat subs or subs treat doms on this sub, there have been many great posts about it but I rarely see anyone discuss how subs are behaving towards other subs.

When I first joined the community I kinda wanted some other subs to talk to rather than just being isolated to talking to my dom, so I made posts about that and asked people to reach out.

A big chunk of the dms I got were in play/role play mode. I don't understand how just because we both are subs the consent situation would be any different? I asked to make conversations and get to know some people, not be thrust into play with no questions asked.

There is nothing wrong with doing that if both parties want it, but why is that our first conversation?

As an example, I made a post here talking about how I had some physical issues that were causing edges to be unreachable for me and I was asking for others to talk to about this, and a sub reached out to me, claiming to have gone through the same thing. When I accepted the chat invite it turned into "Awww it is so sad that you're unable to make cummies for Daddy🥺Maybe your body just knows what it is doing, taking away your cummies🥺"

And that's just one of many. Come on, people🙃

Consent is not optional, don't force your play onto others

There is something particularly hot to me about being 20, knowing I am probably the horniest I'll ever be in life, at my sexual prime, and choosing to just spend it denied.

Haven't done continuous long stretches of denial, but for the past two months I have just been having very few orgasms in between short periods of denial. Despite not having done a whole two month denial I still got very few, but very precious orgasms.

And unfortunately, my Daddy is so awesome at giving me the most earth shattering, black out orgasms that masturbation is pretty much ruined for me🙄 he's so so mean, isn't he? I agree. And since we now get to play less frequently, this means I'll just stay denied in between play days, perhaps even beyond them😪

Sigh I could just cum 10 times a day and enjoy my twenties but no I must enjoy life as if I am a 90 year old man who can't get it up anymore😪

Does a ruined orgasm count as an orgasm and should it restart your denial count?

Everybody's dynamic and rules are different, but I am curious to see which opinion is more popular👀

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I'd love to hear your stories about overcoming the hardest days while still sticking to denial.

I'll go first, since I am not too far into my journey I can say the hardest days are after I have had an orgasm, I cannot stop myself from having accidental ruins. So the trick I have found is starting a new denial streak with 2-3 days of no touch. Then my body is less frantic and accepts that orgasms aren't coming😪

More than anything about the denial itself, I am missing the aftercare. It feels like during the most stressful finals season I can't help but reminisce about things, especially the aftercares I got, how held I felt despite everything being online, how I felt more pampered than I ever had been.

And that just makes me realize that I never let myself rest. But in a bdsm dynamic I know aftercare is a requirement and then and only then I let myself be cared for. So when stressful times come, the only way I remember comfort and safety is aftercare :)

Should be my initiative to start taking care of my own self, every day, at least a little bit

Maybe if I was a good girl and actually denied myself through the finals I'd feel more held😪

And if you manage to catch our attention, and someone replies asking for you to elaborate, you must explain the story 👀

(I am still owned by my Daddy, we've just changed our dynamic to fit our needs better, and I get more control over my day-to-day denial)

Anal was a goal that we'd been working up to for a time, and I ended up taking the dildo for the first time on day 10 of JuNO. At the time we were thinking the dynamic was fully ending, and with me being emotional, and the orgasms Daddy had given me before being the best ones I'd ever gotten to experience (literally no exaggeration), I just wanted to experience it one more time with him and begged for an orgasm. I don't necessarily regret doing that, and he did ask me if I'd regret losing JuNO, as that had been MY goal most of all.

But now that I am past it, had a few more days of orgasms, and me and Daddy are not ending everything, I am just not sure how to proceed with my denial.

I really really love the feeling, and my 30 days goal is still there, but I just don't wanna say "okay I'll just keep trying for 30 days and if I fail I fail". I think there should be a punishment for not going for 30 days. Added days is an easy one, and sounds appropriate, but 30 is already a lot for me, I have only done 10 days twice so far, and my 15 day attempt is so long ago that it doesn't count.

I am asking for punishment ideas, but please don't turn it into play and say things like "100 days" "you should NEVER cum". I am looking for genuine advice🥲

Limits: blood, watersports, scat, blackmailing, humiliation, more than 1 day of no touch

~I love pain, so pain just isn't a punishment

For me personally, didn't really think I had a Daddy kink until being denied...

I am going to give a brief start to a story, and each comment has to continue the story forward, while respecting the comments that added to the story before them. Care to play?👀

I'd like this to be a community activity, and even though we all have different limits, one of them seems to be a common limit; misogyny. Therefore I'd like to kindly ask that those comments are omitted. I'll add a list of mentioned kinks here, and will update as comments roll in. Let's have fun!!

Her open hands trembled on her thighs as she waited for him to enter. It had been two weeks since he'd even allowed her a ruined orgasm, yet alone a full one, and she could feel the deep buzzing need inside of her, getting frantic every time he made her wait for him, for play. It was a cruel game really, to sit and wait for him patiently and gracefully, when they both knew she was on the verge of doing anything to earn an orgasm.

But no, she had to wait in bedroom, in her lingerie that covered nothing, her knees spread, palms open on her thighs, back straight, and had to be pretty for him.

She almost startled when that door finally opened. He walked in slowly, undoing the buttons on his cuffs, looking at her with a smile that conveyed so much. She met his gaze, and gave him a smile of her own.

"I have a new game for you tonight." He said. Her heart started to skip a beat. "No matter how many times we go over it, it seems you still see orgasms as something you get to earn rather than something that is given. So... I decided to entertain it tonight. Tell me one reason why, you have earned to cum."

Last night I ended up making a post about wanting to find a new Dom (I am not looking anymore, don't send dms please) if you saw the post, rather than just saying that I detailed my wants and needs and communicated that I didn't want someone who'd come to my dms to say things like "hey fucktoy, I am your dom now" or some shit. Because that was the majority of the messages I got when I posted on this subreddit a month ago. But I had gotten like... maybe 10 dms back then?

Yesterday, after making a vulnerable post to weed out those people I ended up in an even worse hell. I was flooded with people who sounded insincerely sympathetic on the first message, and immediately started to bombard me with rules and expectations. Despite me clearly stating mid conversation that I am not sure we are gonna continue this dynamic, I want to get to be treated like a person first, the topic just wouldn't be dropped in most cases. The initial sentence of "I understand how hard it must be to abruptly end your dynamic" ended up being completely forgotten after three sentences.

There were a few Doms that kindly pointed out that my post was leaving me vulnerable towards these "sharks", which I think was a fitting term, thank you for that, but I wouldn't have expected the situation to be this way.

Long story short, making a boring, empty post about looking for a Dom ends up with no effort "hey fuckmeat, I am here as your superior man to save you." And making a vulnerable post ends up with Doms trying to take advantage of the situation :)

I have been a domme before, I have been in online kink spaces for a long time, and even in my vulnerable days I won't put up with this kind of treatment. But to all the subs on here, I wanted you to know about this BEFORE you are in that transitional situation if it ever happens to you. It is easy to want to fill that hole immediately, but the "doms" know that too unfortunately.

Be super safe, and fuck all those people🥰

(Thank you for all the people that reached out with concern, I am doing super well and got to find a good way to deal with all of this, and will be steering away from long term power dynamics for a while, as I am starting to realize that is not what works best for me in general)

Due to some life changes me and my lovely Daddy had to part ways. If you've seen my posts before you would've seen me mentioning how compatible we were, but unfortunately life is life🫠 I am currently looking for a new Dom, but strap in because this post will be on the longer side, and if you won't read it, we're not compatible anyways.

I have been a domme before and existed in online kink spaces for a while, know myself and my limits well, and I wouldn't be jumping into a new dynamic so soon if it wasn't for the fact that it is 1/3rd into JuNO and I am not sure what to do. Going a full month without orgasms have been a goal of mine for a long time, but within the time period of being owned I ended up not seeing denial as a purely personal goal anymore. I don't want to give up, but also there isn't enough in it for me to keep going if I am not owned.

I am not looking for a surface level "Yes, Sir" "Thank you, Sir" type of dynamic, but also this will unfortunately never be something that moves offline and I would like to reiterate that. Vaginal penetration of any kind is a hard limit, and due to my living situations voice call/video call type of things are not an option. I'd define myself as someone who's naturally submissive, but I do sometimes brat, though it is never about disobeying rules, but rather just about verbal back and forth, and I'd rather be in a dynamic with someone who finds fun in that rather than the Doms who take themselves too seriously. I do like to text quite a lot, but I have no expectations of constant chatting, just looking for someone who wouldn't mind me leaving them needy messages.

As you may understand, this is a slightly fragile time for me, and I'd rather be alone in this than start a dynamic with someone who sends a first dm like "Hey, fucktoy".

If you're a good Dom, I am genuinely a sub that'll give her most to the dynamic, and I am dedicated and disciplined.

If this sounds like something you'd be interested in, I am open to chatting, but please know that I won't enter a dynamic within the first conversation, text me like a normal human being first.