u/delhiboy18

I’m a 27M from Delhi and over time I’ve met 6 couples through these spaces. One thing I’ve learned is that privacy matters to everyone involved — and I respect that completely. But what often frustrates me is that privacy doesn’t always feel mutual.

Many couples expect complete transparency from me — introductions, details, effort in conversation — while offering almost nothing about themselves. Their profiles are often empty, and basic questions are treated as intrusive or disrespectful of privacy. Yet at the same time, they expect trust, chemistry, and meaningful conversation.

Another thing I’ve noticed is the imbalance in expectations.

Some couples expect what feels like princess treatment — gifts for the wife, booking a 5-star hotel, putting in all the effort and expense upfront. I never text first because I do not want to feel like being a single male automatically means I have to chase, prove interest, or come across as desperate. And if you refuse any of these expectations, many times the response isn’t honesty — it’s simply getting ghosted.

What bothers me isn’t rejection. Rejection is normal. It’s the lack of basic courtesy after investing time, effort, and attention.

Then there’s another category that has become exhausting — people presenting themselves as couples when the wife either isn’t involved or doesn’t even know. They start with normal conversation, slowly make everything sexual, avoid verification, refuse to share anything themselves, and if you lose interest or question it, some become abusive.

There’s also something I genuinely find confusing — the double standards around verification.

Some people ask for my pictures, ask for “verification,” ask my size, or directly ask for dick photos. My profile already makes my intent and content pretty obvious. If my profile isn’t enough for you, that’s okay — move on. But messaging only to ask for more dick pictures without even having a conversation feels unnecessary.

Verification should work both ways. If someone expects openness from me, they should be willing to offer some authenticity too.

And one thing I genuinely don’t understand — why do some people keep pushing after being told no?

I’ve come across cucks/gay who insist that I should “explore” or keep suggesting I should let them suck me just once even after I’ve clearly said I’m straight. I don’t judge anyone’s preferences — people should do what works for them — but I expect the same respect in return.

If what you’re looking for doesn’t align with what I want, that’s completely fine. We can simply move on.

But trying to convince someone after they’ve clearly expressed their boundaries is unnecessary and honestly uncomfortable. I’m not interested in men, and that isn’t something I’m looking to change or experiment with. Respecting boundaries should go both ways.

And finally — I’ll never understand people who go out of their way to message others just to insult or abuse them. If someone isn’t your type or you disagree with them, why not just ignore and move on?

At this point, I’m not frustrated because people have preferences or boundaries. I’m frustrated because mutual respect, honesty, and basic decency seem harder to find than they should be.

I’m a 27M from Delhi and over time I’ve met 6 couples through these spaces. One thing I’ve learned is that privacy matters to everyone involved — and I respect that completely. But what often frustrates me is that privacy doesn’t always feel mutual.

Many couples expect complete transparency from me — introductions, details, effort in conversation — while offering almost nothing about themselves. Their profiles are often empty, and basic questions are treated as intrusive or disrespectful of privacy. Yet at the same time, they expect trust, chemistry, and meaningful conversation.

Another thing I’ve noticed is the imbalance in expectations.

Some couples expect what feels like princess treatment — gifts for the wife, booking a 5-star hotel, putting in all the effort and expense upfront. I never text first because I do not want to feel like being a single male automatically means I have to chase, prove interest, or come across as desperate. And if you refuse any of these expectations, many times the response isn’t honesty — it’s simply getting ghosted.

What bothers me isn’t rejection. Rejection is normal. It’s the lack of basic courtesy after investing time, effort, and attention.

Then there’s another category that has become exhausting — people presenting themselves as couples when the wife either isn’t involved or doesn’t even know. They start with normal conversation, slowly make everything sexual, avoid verification, refuse to share anything themselves, and if you lose interest or question it, some become abusive.

There’s also something I genuinely find confusing — the double standards around verification.

Some people ask for my pictures, ask for “verification,” ask my size, or directly ask for dick photos. My profile already makes my intent and content pretty obvious. If my profile isn’t enough for you, that’s okay — move on. But messaging only to ask for more dick pictures without even having a conversation feels unnecessary.

Verification should work both ways. If someone expects openness from me, they should be willing to offer some authenticity too.

And one thing I genuinely don’t understand — why do some people keep pushing after being told no?

I’ve come across cucks/gay who insist that I should “explore” or keep suggesting I should let them suck me just once even after I’ve clearly said I’m straight. I don’t judge anyone’s preferences — people should do what works for them — but I expect the same respect in return.

If what you’re looking for doesn’t align with what I want, that’s completely fine. We can simply move on.

But trying to convince someone after they’ve clearly expressed their boundaries is unnecessary and honestly uncomfortable. I’m not interested in men, and that isn’t something I’m looking to change or experiment with. Respecting boundaries should go both ways.

And finally — I’ll never understand people who go out of their way to message others just to insult or abuse them. If someone isn’t your type or you disagree with them, why not just ignore and move on?

At this point, I’m not frustrated because people have preferences or boundaries. I’m frustrated because mutual respect, honesty, and basic decency seem harder to find than they should be.

I’m a 27M from Delhi and over time I’ve met 6 couples through these spaces. One thing I’ve learned is that privacy matters to everyone involved — and I respect that completely. But what often frustrates me is that privacy doesn’t always feel mutual.

Many couples expect complete transparency from me — introductions, details, effort in conversation — while offering almost nothing about themselves. Their profiles are often empty, and basic questions are treated as intrusive or disrespectful of privacy. Yet at the same time, they expect trust, chemistry, and meaningful conversation.

Another thing I’ve noticed is the imbalance in expectations.

Some couples expect what feels like princess treatment — gifts for the wife, booking a 5-star hotel, putting in all the effort and expense upfront. I never text first because I do not want to feel like being a single male automatically means I have to chase, prove interest, or come across as desperate. And if you refuse any of these expectations, many times the response isn’t honesty — it’s simply getting ghosted.

What bothers me isn’t rejection. Rejection is normal. It’s the lack of basic courtesy after investing time, effort, and attention.

Then there’s another category that has become exhausting — people presenting themselves as couples when the wife either isn’t involved or doesn’t even know. They start with normal conversation, slowly make everything sexual, avoid verification, refuse to share anything themselves, and if you lose interest or question it, some become abusive.

There’s also something I genuinely find confusing — the double standards around verification.

Some people ask for my pictures, ask for “verification,” ask my size, or directly ask for dick photos. My profile already makes my intent and content pretty obvious. If my profile isn’t enough for you, that’s okay — move on. But messaging only to ask for more dick pictures without even having a conversation feels unnecessary.

Verification should work both ways. If someone expects openness from me, they should be willing to offer some authenticity too.

And one thing I genuinely don’t understand — why do some people keep pushing after being told no?

I’ve come across cucks/gay who insist that I should “explore” or keep suggesting I should let them suck me just once even after I’ve clearly said I’m straight. I don’t judge anyone’s preferences — people should do what works for them — but I expect the same respect in return.

If what you’re looking for doesn’t align with what I want, that’s completely fine. We can simply move on.

But trying to convince someone after they’ve clearly expressed their boundaries is unnecessary and honestly uncomfortable. I’m not interested in men, and that isn’t something I’m looking to change or experiment with. Respecting boundaries should go both ways.

And finally — I’ll never understand people who go out of their way to message others just to insult or abuse them. If someone isn’t your type or you disagree with them, why not just ignore and move on?

At this point, I’m not frustrated because people have preferences or boundaries. I’m frustrated because mutual respect, honesty, and basic decency seem harder to find than they should be.

I’m a 27M from Delhi and over time I’ve met 6 couples through these spaces. One thing I’ve learned is that privacy matters to everyone involved — and I respect that completely. But what often frustrates me is that privacy doesn’t always feel mutual.

Many couples expect complete transparency from me — introductions, details, effort in conversation — while offering almost nothing about themselves. Their profiles are often empty, and basic questions are treated as intrusive or disrespectful of privacy. Yet at the same time, they expect trust, chemistry, and meaningful conversation.

Another thing I’ve noticed is the imbalance in expectations.

Some couples expect what feels like princess treatment — gifts for the wife, booking a 5-star hotel, putting in all the effort and expense upfront. I never text first because I do not want to feel like being a single male automatically means I have to chase, prove interest, or come across as desperate. And if you refuse any of these expectations, many times the response isn’t honesty — it’s simply getting ghosted.

What bothers me isn’t rejection. Rejection is normal. It’s the lack of basic courtesy after investing time, effort, and attention.

Then there’s another category that has become exhausting — people presenting themselves as couples when the wife either isn’t involved or doesn’t even know. They start with normal conversation, slowly make everything sexual, avoid verification, refuse to share anything themselves, and if you lose interest or question it, some become abusive.

There’s also something I genuinely find confusing — the double standards around verification.

Some people ask for my pictures, ask for “verification,” ask my size, or directly ask for dick photos. My profile already makes my intent and content pretty obvious. If my profile isn’t enough for you, that’s okay — move on. But messaging only to ask for more dick pictures without even having a conversation feels unnecessary.

Verification should work both ways. If someone expects openness from me, they should be willing to offer some authenticity too.

And one thing I genuinely don’t understand — why do some people keep pushing after being told no?

I’ve come across cucks/gay who insist that I should “explore” or keep suggesting I should let them suck me just once even after I’ve clearly said I’m straight. I don’t judge anyone’s preferences — people should do what works for them — but I expect the same respect in return.

If what you’re looking for doesn’t align with what I want, that’s completely fine. We can simply move on.

But trying to convince someone after they’ve clearly expressed their boundaries is unnecessary and honestly uncomfortable. I’m not interested in men, and that isn’t something I’m looking to change or experiment with. Respecting boundaries should go both ways.

And finally — I’ll never understand people who go out of their way to message others just to insult or abuse them. If someone isn’t your type or you disagree with them, why not just ignore and move on?

At this point, I’m not frustrated because people have preferences or boundaries. I’m frustrated because mutual respect, honesty, and basic decency seem harder to find than they should be.

I am a 27M and I am here with purely sexual intent.

I’ve been on Reddit for the last 6 years. I’ve seen it grow, peak, and now what feels like its slow downfall. I was part of some ancient subreddits (now deleted or banned) where there were actual real couples and real people. Conversations felt genuine. People weren’t rude and were at least decent enough to have a proper chat. Basic etiquette and courtesy used to exist — and honestly, that alone made a huge difference.

Now a lot of these spaces feel crowded with fake profiles trying to catfish others — pretending to be women or couples just for sex chats, quick validation, or straight-up scams. Then there are people luring users into Telegram or Snapchat to sell nudes or push paid content.

And maybe this will offend some people, but at this point I genuinely feel that a large portion of the “couples” posting here probably aren’t couples at all. Many seem more interested in getting a quick sexual chat going, collecting attention, getting off, and disappearing than actually interacting like normal people. That’s their choice — but pretending to be something else and wasting other people’s time is what gets frustrating.

I’m sure most people here have seen those fake profiles promoting Telegram for nude sales (it’s a scam — don’t fall for it). I’ve blocked 70–80 of these accounts and somehow new ones keep appearing. Meanwhile, Reddit seems slow to deal with obvious spam, but if someone tries to circumvent a ban, enforcement suddenly becomes immediate — even in cases where bans may have been questionable.

They use stolen pictures — private Instagram accounts, old subreddit posts, random images. Ask for verification and they disappear, make excuses, or sometimes become abusive when caught. That part is almost predictable at this point.

Over these last 6 years, my account has been falsely reported and shadowbanned more than once. Maybe I’m wrong, but it often feels like people get annoyed when you don’t entertain their scam and decide to mass-report instead.

I’m not complaining that people don’t want to talk. I’m frustrated that authenticity and basic decency seem harder to find than they used to be.