Men in "dead bedroom" marriages have somehow stolen my heart
I'm so glad I found this community. I've been itching to tell somebody that I seem to have developed an unhealthy obsession with men in "dead bedroom" marriages... as a 29-year-old virgin who has obviously never been in their situation.
I love browsing the deadbedrooms and sexlessmarriage subreddits a little too much. I empathize with these people and I feel terrible about their situations (no one should feel unloved in a marriage), but I'm so fixated on the stories from men married to sexually incompatible women. I'm constantly imagining what it would be like to meet one of these men and give him cuddles, comfort, touch, massages, a listening ear, etc., so he can go back to his wife/family just a little less stressed and lonely.
Not just sex (maybe not even sex), but the complete package of empathy, attention, emotional and physical safety, peace, etc. I'd want the same in return, someone who helps me explore at a leisurely pace and "holds" me too, no pressure or expectations from either side. Just skin contact, human connection, laughter, silly conversations at 2 am, cappuccinos at lunch time, and no room for my insecurities or his guilt or anyone's judgment.
I know it's unethical, not just because they're married (and lots of them have kids too!!!), but also because most of these men are (presumably) straight. In my fantasies, one of these men realizes (or already knows) they've been bisexual all along and becomes interested in feminine men like me. We start chatting online, casually at first, exchanging words of support, pics from our day, inside jokes... Soon we're sharing our fantasies and kinks, then we start exchanging racy pics, and it grows from there until neither of us can ignore what's building between us...
I feel so bad, but it's also one of my biggest fantasies. 🫠
Anyone else feel the same? Am I a wannabe home-wrecking freak? lol