Requesting someone to train you as a sissy
So I’m an experienced sissy and have been fairly active in various discussions here, some of which include people asking why there are no trainers. I’ve apparently made a comment recently that’s caused six potential sissies to contact me today requesting that i train them. My intention is not to be mean but to shed some light on why this no longer works for me. Maybe what doesn’t work for me doesnt work for other potential trainers. Maybe not; but i think it’s worth bringing up.
Here’s why i no longer do it:
- Therapist: i do not know you, and i do not have any psychological training. I understand the fear of the social stigma behind what we are as I’m not out of the closet. I’m bi and still do date women (which is when Marianna goes away unless i get the vibe the woman would be into it). I’ve spent a lot of time and money in therapy working through accepting this side of me, and i can’t just hand you insight even if i wanted to. You have to do the work yourself because it’s personal to you.
It’s worth it. You only have one life on this planet, so if this is something that may bring you joy, do some work and figure that out.
- Online fetish dispensary: Most sissies that contact me want to be controlled and taught, but they want to be controlled how they want. I’m a sub leaning switch that’s most attracted to dominant men and women. I also have a business, interests outside of kink, responsibilities, etc. every minute i spend training a sissy is a minute taken away from those things, and i don’t charge.
What most of yall want is to top from the bottom, and there’s nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of Dommes/Doms on fetlife/onlyfans/etc that will provide that service, but like any service provider, you’ll need to pay for the service. Way too many sissies not only expect me to train them with nothing in return for me but then also are impatient at the speed in which i respond to them. I’m not asking to get paid to do this as even then i still do not think it is worth it, but the way some of yall have acted as if i need to jump at your beck and call has been wild.
- PNC/Ghosting: i personally have never had pnc issues. I don’t want the world to know i enjoy this play, but the first time i dressed for a man and sucked his cock, i couldn’t wait to do it again once he came.
I understand that im probably an anomaly within this fetish, but let me remind you that I’m not taking payments, receiving any service (sexual or domestic) from yall, and lean sub rather than dominant. So when i put aside time to train someone only for them to ghost me without even saying goodbye, it’s extremely annoying and makes me feel unappreciated. I have a service and humiliation kink, but yall are not my Sir or Domme.
I get that this play is hot and makes you want to cum. I do it all the time when I’m not locked and then do it via my sissy button when i am locked. But you can’t use people to get off and then disappear because you feel weird about what you did. If you need to do that, stick with porn until you’ve worked those things out. I used to be really, really open to training gurls, but I’ve been burned so many times by this that I’m done with it.
- Live play: I’m definitely flirty with trans or attractive sissy postings on Reddit, but online play is not my jam. There are so many hot sissy stories on literotica or nifty and I’d rather read those if I’m not playing with someone in person.
I know much of this may come off as cunty, so let me be clear on what i will do. I’ll continue to comment and give my opinion on postings or questions that come up in this group. Do with those what you will as I’m not the expert sissy. I’ll also continue to support and cheer yall on. I enjoy this play but it’s not for everyone. I want yall all to figure out if it is. If not, no big deal. If so, i want yall to live out your sissy goals to the fullest that is safely possible. Stay safe gurls.